WHEN THEY DOUBT YOU | Best Motivational Video 2019 (EYE OPENING SPEECH)
In the, beginning they, will criticize you they'll. Judge you they'll. Say you need more work/life, balance, they'll. Say it's too risky they'll. Say it can't be done, they'll. Say you can't see clearly. But. They can't. See your. Vision, they. Can't see your vision they. Don't know your heart they. Will never understand, how much it means to you. Work. Hard and stay focused, on that meaning, stay. Focused, on your mission. Believe. In yourself, and lead, with integrity in, the. End they'll, ask how you did it and when. They do you'll, be able to guide them to a higher, level, you'll. Be the example the example, of perseverance. The. Example, of believing. In yourself. The, example, of never losing sight of your vision the example. Of blocking, out all the noise and, remaining. Dedicated. To your dream, your. Purpose, I, always. Felt, like, I needed other people, to believe in me but it wasn't until I started. Believing in, that I started going places when. I started to back myself. Other, people, started to back me when. I realized my worse others. Saw my worse, now. I know I don't need others to do anything or achieve, anything in my life, it's great to have support but it's better to have belief, in yourself, it's. Great to have support but, it's better to have mental, strength. It's. Great to have people in your corner but it's better to be able to fight, but, life is you cornered. I am, ready for anything, any, challenge, life has in store and I will always back, myself. If you don't believe in you who is going to if, you don't back you who's. Going to and if, you don't believe it's going to work out guess, what it. Won't if you, even have a speck of doubt in your mind it, will hold you back from reaching your goals it. Will hold you back from your true potential, it. Will hold you back from giving it your all and because. Of that you'll. Never know how great, you could have been, you. Can develop that belief you, develop, it by doing by. Taking actions, and yes. You will fail but, each time you get back up you, take one more step forward and, that, step you take forward is another step, in belief, keep, climbing, and growing that belief until you reach the place where there's no doubt. Only. You know how far you will go in life because. Only you know how much you are willing to give up in order to claim the prizes life has to offer life, has those prizes, waiting. For you you, can be the champion of your own life you, will win. When, you back yourself, when. You bet on yourself when. You go all-in, on your dream, when. You stop holding back and. Go, all, out. You. Must know at the very least that, you are capable of anything. Others, before you have done it so. Logically, it is possible. You, just have to believe, Trust, have. Faith and be, willing to do whatever it, takes to get there. You, have to back yourself. Nothing. Else will pay better the, only way to win big in life is, to bet on, yourself, if, you're not willing to back you no. One will believe. You, are capable, because. Guess what you. Are you. Are more than capable you, just need to back yourself and take, consistent, edge. Find. That squawk you need and turn it into a flame turn. The flame into an inferno of passion, and let that passion drive you to greatness. Listen. Some, successful, people aren't this, they. Just believe in themselves they, back themselves, and they are willing to work for what they want, you. Don't need the fancy college, degree, you. Don't need the wealthy parents. You. Need belief. You. Can make up for lack of education, with belief in hard work. Everything. Will fall into place. Trust. It will. Trust, yourself, and it will. Light, has prizes. Waiting, for you you, can be the champion, of your own life you. Will win in life when, you back, yourself when. You bet on yourself, when you go all-in on your train when, you stop holding, back and go, all, out. Human. Beings, absolutely. Follow through on who they believe they are if. You say said to me well I'm, really gonna work hard to stop smoking, but. You know I've been a smoker my whole life and I'm you know I am a smoker I know. Your days are numbered you're gonna be back smoking cigarettes again because we, all act consistent, with who we believe we are, I tell.
People The strongest force, in the, whole human personality. Is this need to stay consistent with, how we define ourselves, if. You define yourself as somebody who is really conservative, you're. Not gonna be crazy and act nuts unless you're really drunk or something and then you can say it's the alcohol when. It really does you finally. Getting permission to be yourself the alcohol is your excuse if you're. A really crazy person, you act crazy outrageous, playful. You don't have conservative. Because that's not who you are fern. Often people say well I can't, do that I'm not that kind of person and I always say to people really when. Did you define yourself I mean. Really how many years ago did you come up with what you could and couldn't do in your life I'd. Only years ago most. People if they really look at how to living their life today it's based on a set of standards, a set of beliefs that, they made choices about 10, 20 30 or more years ago I mean. Very often we made decisions in our youth or very young about what to believe about what we were capable of about who, we are as a person and that becomes, the, glass ceiling if you will that controls, us there's. A corny. Metaphor but it's true I remember one time I was with my family at the circus and there's, a person there and they had this big giant elephant, you look at this elephant and they take this little rope, put it around the health and snack and they drive the stake into the ground and I, mean you look at this you know that elephant could rip down the entire tent, with almost no effort and, yet the elephant doesn't struggle doesn't try why because the elephant's conditioned, and they, take that elephant, conditioned the elephant when it's a baby elephant that's how they train them when, it's a little baby elephant and it doesn't have a power yet they put a big rope around it and they drive, this huge stake in the ground and the elephant fights and fights and bites and one, day finally that often decides I'm, not capable pulling, this out and, once that becomes the definition, of an identity of anyone. An elephant, in this case they. Even try anymore it's just who I am that's how it is that's, just the way it is in my life I'd. Like to ask you to take, a look at any place you've got a limitation, ask yourself, when did I decide to accept that limitation and. You may not even see it as a limitation you might see there just that's who I am but. So, often in our lives we've adapted to, be, a certain, way so that we don't fail or so that people will like us or respect us but it's not necessarily, who we are joy. Comes, when you're spontaneous. It's, really hard to be truly, happy when, you're not being yourself and most, of us have no clue who we are and so a big part of my work if you've ever been to an event you know is to get people and do things spontaneously, without thinking, because that's when the real you shows up that's when the energy comes alive and when, you do that when you start to connect your true nature suddenly. There's energy available, for you to set a higher standard for what you want in your life that's. What this is really all about and, when, I talk about standards, when I talk about you know shoulds versus must think, about your own life I know, there, have been areas in your life where some. Point in time you just shift it and you raise the standard in your life changed, because, whatever. People, have their. Identity, attached to they. Live we. Live who we believe we are that's just how it works it's just kind of like I give.
An Example look. At your physical body your, physical body today is an, absolute, reflection of only one thing not your goals not. Your desires but. Your standards the. Identity, you have for yourself if your, standard, is you're an athlete, then. There's, a certain amount of strength a muscle tone and energy, that's available in your body on a regular basis, because that's who you are and, so you do whatever is necessary to maintain that identity, again. The strongest, force and the human personalities this need to stay consistent, with how we define ourselves because. If you. Don't know who you are you would not act once. You lock in on that identity your brain finds a way to keep you there and you, say you, and, I'm, overweight I've always been overweight I'm big-boned and, that's, the story you've got and you're. Gonna always find a way to get back there that's you're settling, point that's, your identity that's, where things lock in if. You see somebody who's a really great shape you ask him do you work out you know the answer yes how often and they'll tell you three times four times five times a week whatever into seven our last people who here works out at least five days a week and I'm stand-up and you, look around that room and you, know that, they work out five times a week as you can see their body you don't just get a result, without some kind of action, without some form of ritual ritual, meaning, actions, you do consistently. Now. Do you think here those people that are out there working out five days a week do. They have more time than you do or. I have for anybody else of, course not is that, a wife less busy of course not it's just a must for them they must work out that way and they've made that turn their life changed, so, I'm not saying you have to work out five days a week I'm, just saying whatever you really want. Once. Don't get met consistently. Standards. Do whatever. You identify, this is Who I am and so it's not so much about changing. Your identity as, this expanding. It you. Know deciding. That you know instead, of your goals to lose 10, pounds which. Is not compelling, what if your vision was to get back to my fighting weight you. Know just this year this month this next 90 days I'm, gonna transform, my body I'm gonna take on a new challenge I'm gonna find some technique, or strategy there's a million of them that, can reframe, myself or I'm gonna feel younger stronger more vibrant than ever before here's, my reasons, because I want the energy to really make my life work because, it's tough out there and I want to be stronger than I've ever been before I want to go in front of the mirror if I'm naked not you know wanna laugh I won't look there and take a good look and go yeah, I'm.
Proud Of whatever I see there whatever. It takes something's gonna make you laugh smile, something, that's gonna tease yourself but something's gonna move you to another level, if you identify yourself. In a new way and you, own that every day and that, becomes the staredown you live you'll find the way to make that standard, real money. Is the same way I think about it doesn't matter what's happening, quote-unquote, in the marketplace, people. That make money find, a way to make money no matter what don't they I mean. Most. People standard. To pay their bills so. That's what most people find a way to do even when economic, times get tough most, people if that's their absolute, standard they find a way some. People's standard. Is pay their bills and most of the time and. So most the time they do some. People standard is not just to pay their bills but to take care of their family and maybe even some of their friends, and. They find a way in, fact you might have some people may be, in a family where they don't have enough money to barely have money to pay their bills they. Work through guts out and then, somebody their mother their father or somebody else their sister gets ill and there's. Not enough money to take care of it nobody else has money and family they don't either but they find a way to get that money to take care of their mother or father don't they and, they their bells they. Never could do it before why the, situation, made them raise their own standard, and not everybody does that somebody else in the family might have money and still don't take care of their mother, it. All comes down to the inner game my friends changing. Your life is a change in the inner game the. Outside, world you can't control but you have an absolute, control over this one if you learn that dynamics, of what shapes you and identity. Is one of those simple, clear. Fundamental. Basics, that if you start. To shift it everything else will shift in your life as well some. People by the way have to have more than enough money to do what they want when they want where they want with whomever they want contribute. The way they want if. That's there must they find a way I know, that sounds overly simplistic, but. It's true now. Somebody once said you could take all the money in the world out, of the hands of everybody out of all the wealthy people in the world who are really successful give. It to other people it wouldn't take too long those people have it back in their hands it's not because they're manipular that's because they have a standard some are manipular don't get me wrong but they've got a standard of what they're gonna find a way to make happen I'm just simply saying to you take, those three magic words and live them raise your, standard.
If. You really want to do it then. I'll tell you the most important secret have. You ever done this have, you ever told yourself you're raising your standard okay I'm gonna go make this happen I'm gonna go make this much money I'm gonna transform. My kids I'm gonna create, the ultimate, relationship of my life I'm gonna transform my body whatever it is and. Then. You don't have strong enough reasons and you don't lose use it you don't follow through it's because you. Didn't back up your standards, with what makes those standards, real and that's rituals. Rituals. Over the power is whenever. We do our robbins results coaching and we sit robbins equals results late, we get results with people it's. The same way if you listen to my. Ultimate, edge program are back in the old days personal, power or, if you went to one of my seminars you know what i do is i take these huge challenges, you got and we break them down into little bite-sized, steps. Little. Things you do each day that. After you do them you get so much momentum that, it's easy to succeed you're not overwhelmed you, have these victory, day after day after day on little things if you'd. Went to ultimate edge i'm sure you learned about the hour of power or the fifteen minutes to be able to be fulfilled or thirty minutes to thrive where you literally just condition, your body and emotion, with a couple little rituals so. It doesn't matter what's going on in your world you feel that strength and it's not fake it's not some pump up it's coming from inside you and it works. Rituals. Define, us see. All. The results in your life are coming from your rituals they. Start with a standard, and then have rituals that follow it up like for example if you are where you want to be physically, you. Have very different rituals than if you're not where you want to be physically if you're overweight you. And i both know you got a different ritual than if you're physically fit completely. Different you, get up in the morning what's the first thing you do if, you're fit your, shoes are there you roll over the. Minute how you feel you put on your shoes you lacing you start walking or whatever that ritual is if, you're, overweight you roll over and you have a very different ritual you, might roll over several times to turn the alarm clock off you. Go in and get your mocha mocha whatever you know special. Coffees stop by at starbucks or over the case maybe you have your nice sugar muffin you. Know it's supposed to be really nice for you whatever you do it's, a different ritual if.
You Have a great, passionate, relationship, you. Have very different rituals and how you come home than if you have a lousy relationship, you. Come home and the first thing you do is you're tweeting somebody, or you're emailing or, flipping. On the news or you don't even come home and. What are the rituals whenever. I studied people that are successful well I look for is what's the standard they hold himself to and then, what are all those little rituals, that up because think, about it success. And failure are not giant, events. They don't just show up you'll. Just suddenly become successful, or suddenly have this cataclysmic, event that makes you fail they look that way but. Failure comes from all the little things, its. Failure, to make the call its. Failure, to check the books, its. Failure to say I'm sorry, its. Failure, to push yourself to do things physically that you don't want to do and. All those little failures, day after day come, together until one day some Cataclysm event happens you blame Matt that event happened because you missed all the little stuff do. You agree with me and success. By the way is not, some overnight event it's all these little things success. Is having a vision success. Is making it compelling success, is really. Seeing it feeling it every day was strong enough for reasons success, is, feeling. The sense that I'm here to grow and I'm here to give to something to the world more than just myself. Success. Is caring. About other people success, is calling and saying I love you in the middle of the day for no damn reason or. Sending, a note that will change your relationship, have a ritual, of something, funny playful, or a surprise, you do how many relationships are, dead today because they have no surprise rituals, anymore, you. Need to have some rituals and cool things you do that nobody else does that gives you a better life than anybody, else has all, the, little stuff that's. Where success comes from in business. It comes from delivering. More than anybody could imagine all, those little things add up people go wow that's. Who I want to do business with it's. True in any area of your life so. If, you look at somebody's really successful, you think wow I mean they're so amazing there's such a genius you kind of dig underneath you got to remember something people. Are rewarded in, public, for, what they've practiced, for years in private. Myself. And my business people say how are you get up and speaking of nono-chan you go for three days and nights and the room is like he's wired it's incredible, it's like a rock concert how. Do you do that how do you get that confidence home and, you know it's not confidence, it's experience, now but.
I Did so much behind the scenes and I still do to make things right I mean. How, many people would know that since the time I was 17 years old before, I walk on him stage still do to this day wouldn't need to do it but I still do it I never walk out there without being in an absolute. Peak state of mind you. Know there are days my back is hurting my throat was hurting or I may have a challenger. My, father passed away and I still got to deliver for these people because my standard, is give, my all every time everything has to be better talk, to anybody has been to our events for 5-10 years some, of our trainers and. Was a I don't know he does it he's always finds a way to make it better that's not an ego thing that's a standard, in me I have. To find the way and my, ritual, though is I prepare. I think, I gather new information I figure out how to put something across better what do people need I spend time with our customers, I see, what's going on and before I get on stage each time I have this little ritual to. Put myself in a state of mind and I did it starting, like seventeen years old I started doing it say I now command my subconscious, mind and I say this out loud several. Times this little phrase set of phrases as an, incantation, to, kind of conditioned my mind and body and that's an now command, my subconscious mind to direct me and helping as many people as possible today, by giving me the strength and the emotion, and the humor and the brevity whatever it takes to. Show this person and help this person change their life now and. I started that with a person when I work with people one-on-one I will do that for 45 minutes driving in my Volkswagen to, go serve and coach somebody for the first time now. I don't say that person I say these people and. I can go out in the room of 10,000, people and deliver, for 50 hours and I do it every time I come back onstage it's a ritual a ritual to go into Peaks pain peak states don't just show up Italy interrupt you great. Ideas don't interrupt you got to pursue them I talked. To Michael Jordan I'll never forget dad the peak of his career and got, to watch his final games saw, him backstage and spent some time with him and there's. Pretty exciting time he was greatest basketball player and I think that ever lived and hazard a lift and I. Asked him I said you know what sets you apart Michael. You, know what is it and is. It god-given, talent ability skill what is it you should tell me you know he, said I can shoot you straight you know it's not you, know me trying to act humble, he, goes I have a lot of talent a lot of god-given talent lot of skill I've worked really hard but he said really it's. My standards, he. Said every day I demand, more for myself than anybody, else could humanly expect. I'm, not competing with somebody else I'm competing with why I'm capable of. Hmm. Magic, formula because. Most, of us lower our standards, why, because. Who you spend time with my friends is who you become, one. Of the biggest reasons I started go to seminars when I was like 17 is I had nobody around me is a great role model I can read about somebody but being. Around people being in that environment was very different finding way to go to work with someone who lived that standard, of life was very different you. Get around people at low standards, and you. Compete with it you, don't need to compete with it it's like okay, I mean remember, Jerry Springer I don't he's still in the air but yeah I remember used to get people on the show my thought where would he find these people. Watch. They watch these people go my life still pretty darn good can hear that person look, at them you.
Don't Have to change your life all you have to do is find somebody with a lower standard you'll feel good about yourself, but. If you feel that good feeling it's an illusion, the. Only thing that's gonna make you happy my friend and this year or any other is, to. Step up it's. To raise the standard it's to discover what you're capable of and feel that, incredible. Power. Of pushing through whatever is holding you back and get, to the other side of more, of your true self that's. What this game is all about and look. At the best of the world than anything Tiger Woods what's what's his vision to win golf tournaments no. To be the best that ever lived. That's. His goal that's his vision but here's what's interesting he backs it up with rituals if you just have a vision and you don't have the rituals stop, lying to yourself his. Rituals, are he started doing things nobody did before he went started lifting weights golfers. Lifting weights no. Way he. Went out and he changed, his swing when, he was the best in the world because. He realized order to be the best that ever lived he's gonna have to change his swing if you don't thing about golf you don't change your swing when you're the best and. He went and retrained, himself, because, he has different rituals than other golfers now many people are modeling as rituals to get better it's. Amazing, you. Know you look at somebody like Michael, Phelps the 2008, swimmer won seven. You know only two people I think in history if I remember correctly that have, gotten seven, gold medals in one session. And here's. A guy he's got number six centers belton he's exhausted, and he's going in for that final swim I'm sure you remember and, how. Does the guy win by. One, hundredths. Of a second, do. You think that was some. Massive, skill that got him over the top or was. It a standard that says this is Who I am I, am. The champion and, no one is taking this from me and somehow in those finals, milliseconds. Hundredth of a second he pushed himself just, beyond his competitor. But. You know how about Michael Phelps would, allow them to be able to push beyond that moment is this rituals, go, steady the guy most. People who swim have, these unbelievable workouts. He. Does two, and three, of the workout, sessions, a day all. The other swimmers in the beginning thought he was insane you. Can over train you can't do that it's not physically possible but, he had a standard, and the rituals to back it up so. Here's, my final message to you because I've gotten carried away I was gonna send you like a five-minute message but you can see there's no script here it's just me go a little crazy with you but I want to really see you get what you want this year don't let this year be like last and, if last year was great still don't let it be that way raise the standard, if, your life is perfect and extraordinary you darn well know you're. Not gonna be happy unless you keep making it better that's. What makes us feel alive it's not what we got to make us happy it's Cooley become and what. We're able to give because we've become more that. Sense of contribution is what creates the deepest meaning so. Here's. My assignment for if you want one if you want to go from conversation, to some action here's a simple thing to do what's, an area your life right now that you really want improve what's. An area that's important to improve to. Your body's great how, about your career if career is great how about your relationship, intimate. One especially or your kids or your. Relationship, with your Creator spiritual. Side of your life or, is it your finances. Figure. An area that really matters decide on that area number one write. Down what your life is like in that area right now as specifically, as possible so. You might say well I'm, thirteen. Point five pounds overweight you. Know whatever. The weight is whatever the situation is or my body fats like this or I'm wake up exhausted in the morning, and you write the truth of where you are right now so, you're real clear or I'm.
Not In a relationship I, say I want a relationship but I, I'm not in one I don't, seem to find them all the good ones seem to be gone is my belief you. Know and I really, do want one but I don't have it whatever your definition well I'm in a relationship and god I wish I wasn't in a relationship I'm. Planning, my escape wherever. You are or I have a wonderful, relationship we love each other but there just isn't enough passion. Just. Right the truth of where you are the area you want to change what right how it is and then. The second step is that's, where you gotta be really honest with yourself, what. Are the rituals that have put me there because. Whatever. Results, you're getting even if you don't like the results there's. Some rituals, that are keeping you in that place there's. Some rituals of what you eat or don't eat how you move or don't move how you sleep or don't sleep there's. Some rituals and the, lack of variety or spice or energy, or focus, in, an area there's. Something, you're doing and it's usually not one thing it's a bunch of little things they, kind of do consistently whenever you think about getting in a relationship whatever, you think about working out whenever you think about money and, get yourself in a state of overwhelm, you start thinking about all the things you can't control just. Write down all the rituals you have and then here's the third step what, do you want what's, your vision and be really specific I want to be my fighting way I want to be the strongest I've ever felt I want to be I'm gonna turn my act whatever it is be specific and, then. Last. Step number four what, are the rituals that'll get you there what would you need it differently each morning if you're going to be that, kind of energy that kind of strength how, would you have to often would you work out what days would you work out what time a ritual.
Something You do consistently, usually, at a specific time so becomes automatic, let. Me tell you something willpower, doesn't. Last, but, rituals can last a lifetime I bet, you have some rituals in your life right now you've been doing for years even. Though some of them don't serve you I'm. Just saying wake yourself up make. If you want a new year and a, new life you. Don't need to start in January first, start. Today start, with this little video and just. Begin to see what happens and see how easy it is to just do a few little rituals don't do them all just do two or three new things and, you know what happens you'll get momentum cuz, once you discipline yourself in one area life you. Feel yourself doing it other areas as well I always say something that my, original teacher taught me always remind people there's. Always two pains in life, is it the pain of discipline, or is, the pain of regret and. Discipline. Weighs ounces as my friend Jim Rohn taught me regret. Weighs tons you. Don't ever regret so, right, now what, do you want to change what's it really like one, of the rituals that got you there that will take a little homework if you're not sure ask the people around you they'll tell you what your rituals are what. Do I really want in depth where the rituals that'll get me there and then get yourself to start, a few of those actions, and lock them in place so. I can help you in any way we're here as a company to support you to come and have an event with us come to unleash the power within or master university or get, a coach you can get a free coaching session if you call our company and click on something, on this we'll probably have something on it or get a product or don't do anything with us but do something with somebody starting. With you if, you make the change in yourself you're gonna be proud this year and no. Amount of money or accolades, other people can mirror, the feeling of being proud of knowing you've taken back control of your life or you've taken a great life to another level because, once you do that you have something you can give other people whether it be your kids or your friends or your family and. Ultimate that's why it's about.