What AVATAR: THE LAST AIRBENDER Can Teach Us About Self-Worth - Cartoon Therapy| Thomas Sanders
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It This is one time. Thank. You, I'll. Be back in an hour, put. Your glasses on what are you doing but. That's not what I meant. No. Mmm, good, stop. Yeah. Okay, I know that. Yeah. I know, all. Right cool I'll see you guys this weekend. All. Right yeah. Nurse. No, my, name is Elliot oh my, mistake wrong room I, like, your new office oh thanks. The landscape flakes kicked me out for being too disruptive, or something I don't. Believe it believe it Naruto, yeah yeah oh. Good. Let me get material sugar spice. And. Everything nice, these, are the ingredients chosen to create the perfect little, session, well I think we gave this a great second try Larrin old she, only made, things worse last time what'd I say I'll say what now sorry, doctor Larry's, in a bit of a sour mood the. Salmon bagel he had this morning is not agreeing with him I think. I might have salmonella. You. Don't get that from, salmon, we love the new location. We. Seldom leave, town or go on vacation so. We decided to dress, for the occasion and. It's, only 30 minutes from the last location but okay glad, you're back Elliot you are I thought. The point was for me not to come back I wouldn't, say that's the point lots of well-adjusted people, go to therapy Elliot, but regardless, we still, have a lot to work through so you know we, only had one real session right, um and, this. One's going to be my last well I'll say I'm sorry what. Nah. New. Patient, hello, do you help you, my. Name is dr., Becky Ani and you must be Chi. H. For, the Chi. In. Toys, 3000. Is it the entrance too, much nothing to do with you I think you're, great and I'm going to fully, commit today or whatever. It's. Almost non-committal. Way of saying that but. Yeah. Afterward. And. Done, great, googly, mooglies well okay if, you're sure then, it. Looks like we've got some ground to cover so we yeah real quickly review, of course Larry you're saying we may have taken a wrong turn in Albuquerque, so we should discuss what happened in the last session oh well, sure well, we came in because I felt we weren't quite on. The same page in their relationship, then you compared, our relationship, to some cartoon, rocks yeah I did the crystal, gems good, recall, Larry we talked about how it's okay for me to need reassurance sometimes. And about how we aren't two halves of a whole in our relationship, or, two fully realize, separate, individuals, who chose to fuse. And that's, what our biggest strength is oh and then we stole your heart, with. Our charming, back-and-forth, hook that, you did I am a fan of witty, and high-energy. Conversation. Don'ts. Then it's the office you get it it's, new it's been throwing people off more than when Teen Titans became Teen Titans go but. Yeah I'm still settling in it, give me a process, to get things just the way you want, them alright go ahead and get to talk and gotta go fast previously. On, Elliot. You. Want me to, we. Talked, about my, relationship, with my boyfriend Mitchell and how it might not be the most stable thing on, the planet that's right and did you two have any progress oh yeah. Yeah, we talked about some of it it's, uh. It's. It's hard to bring it up at a good time you know leop, are plenty. Of good times peanut, butter jelly time. Adventure, Time, 248, that's, a particular, favorite of mine right but he's just sometimes, he's tired or, upset or he's. Just I don't. Know I did. Bring it up though oh good and what was discussed, exactly that I was seeing you alone now. And. That's. It Elliot. As we discussed, you have equal, weight and importance in your relationship. Right yeah, totally. Mm-hmm. Has. Anything, significant. Happened since our last meeting oh, nothing. Too significant. Larry. Did have an eensy. Teensy weensy. Bean, just say what you're going to say I tried, to throw Larry a nice evening and he threw me a little bit yes. I did. Because, it was an overly, extravagant. Beaver dream, there may have been a few rose petals, a candelabra, a rented, fire pit maybe, doves were released in the living room and I may have hired someone to play the harp I mean finding, someone in your living room is scary, I almost tackled her you didn't have any problem with the two masseuses, I rented, you, loose VIN and bled out of this there were Nordic angels.
Right. Last, what. Was that you said about being kicked out for being disruptive, Elliott if I've only got you for one more session let's try to treat Mitchell how Disney treats many of their questionable, racist animations of the past and pretend like they don't exist that seems, mean this. Is a solo therapy, session, after all I eat and journey not unlike a young. Char once had some ink and I'm, here to help you open up all your chakras. Naruto. Wrong. Show Eliott wrong. Show I, mean. I said the child okay so I may have gotten an eensy-teensy, tiddlywinks. A bit carried away working, with the children has ruined the way used to be man Larry wasn't the biggest fan of it, I just didn't need it it. Was sweet of you it was I'm. Sure it cost a fortune which I'm not thrilled about but, I don't need to be pampered I don't need to be taken care of all the time whoa looks. Like the blind bandit, stepped into the ring oh boy we're off to a rocky start, oh you have no idea all, right Elliott if memory serves you're part of a nice little modern, Stone Age family let's give them a little credit doc they at least made it to the Iron Age but yeah mother father sister brother hunts like you take notes or something it's like you've gotten more sarcastic or something it's like I'm in a better mood this time or something speaking of which last time I said that you were the jack jack in your family of Incredibles, but you said you weren't incredible, what, do you think you have that outlook on yourself, Wow. What, you get is real fast yep this session is the Mach 5 and I'm Speed Racer let's go I mean I don't know I'm I'm, not. Not. Special. And that's, where I'm gonna hit the brakes Elliot looks, like you're in need of your own quest, hey, Jonny. Quest, I appreciate. You trying to speak my language but know you.
Like So many people at some point in their lives must embark on a journey to discover your, own self-worth, and I know that's not the easiest thing in the Four Nations but. Some of the most arduous journeys. Make, the best stories, well mine is a neverending, story, I. Regret. Doing that no points for that one not, a cartoon, and me, your quest along with being expedited, has another similarity, to avatar hang neither of you believe you deserve that great, inner strength, I know you don't need constant care, it's. Just I'm just, I don't. Know trying to contribute. More to our relationship. You. Contribute, enough to our relationship, by being yourself, and. By being there for me, do. I though. See. You know he says these sweet things to me all the time so, why am I so confused. As to what to do it's, okay to be confused sometimes. Life, can be like a dark tunnel you can't always see the light at the end of the tunnel but if you keep moving you. Will come to a better place, mm-hmm. That sounds suspiciously, unoriginal, is, it from a cartoon come now Larry I am capable of coming up with my own original ideas. However. You are correct in this instance that is a quote from good ol uncle Iroh you know Kai whenever, you're ready my contact, is perfectly safe I mean, I know, cold the face dealer or anything, ah there, I go again with another random cartoon. Reverence it's, funny I brought this cartoon up in two other sessions, this week ko, is this really, cool malevolent. Spirit, from this animated series half a char The Last Airbender, not. That you care, about any of this or anything but you, do haven't seen avatar, have you no, I have, a, severe. Highly, specific phobia. In regards, to blue, aliens. Except. For the adorable, stuffed one we took a fancy. To, that. Disney World yeah well then you're in luck because I'm, not referring to the James Cameron movie we're, talking the excellent, an alien, fries Avatar, The Last Airbender oh you're talking about Avatar The Last Airbender ah you've seen it no but, it had really good music in the end credits I never got home from school and time oh you're kidding with me alligator you watched Naruto, but not Airbender come on I haven't much Naruto, I know where you got that so in the show there are primarily, four, nations that correlate, with the four elements, water, earth, fire and, air, certain, people are born with the gift to control, or bend, one. Of these elements long. Before the events of the show the Four Nations lived together in harmony. Then, everything, changed when the Fire Nation.
Anyway. The show's intro was already a perfectly, adequate synopsis. Of the story so I'm just gonna continue borrowing some of its language only, the avatar, one individual, who is reincarnated, in each generation and can master all four elements could stop the, Fire Nation but, when the world needed him most in, being hanging the twelve-year-old avatar of the time and soon to be only remaining Airbender in the world he vanished, a hundred years passed and two siblings from the Southern, Water Tribe two siblings from the Northern, Water Tribe Katara. And Sokka discover. Aang well you go penguin selling with me, and, although his, airbending skills, are great he has a lot to, learn before he's ready to save anyone let me tell you but, I believe not only Katara, that, Aang can, save the world. What. I say what no you. Were saying something. Katara. And Sokka from the Southern, Water Tribe not the northern, and Co doesn't take your face if you make eye contact. He takes it a few show. Emotion, you're right my mistake so you're familiar with the show so you think I'm like this super. Powerful, multi-element. Controlling. Kid on it's. Aang, um I'm, saying hey I'm hearing on how are you hearing on it's in, and. Don't you. Don't. You dare pronounce it like that but. Yes you are like you mean that you both doubt yourselves, in what you are capable of see, Aang disappeared. Because he ran away from the southern air temple where, he was raised, due to the war he had to start his training far, earlier, than most avatars giving. Up a lot of his childhood, it was a lot to bear and as the threat of change grew even more overwhelming namely, after overhearing that he would be separated, from his friend and mentor, monkey, on so he got scared and ran away. Then. He and his air bison opera were caught in a storm that plunged him into the ocean buried when it's the avatar statement case them both and an iceberg where he resided for the next hundred years. Okay. Got it when he was released he learned of how much his absence, had affected, the world and his training of the other three elements, would have to go at a dare, I say. Stupidly. Fast, pace, you pretty, mastered, airbending and that only took you 112 years, I'm, sure you can master 3 more elements by next summer the task was an overwhelming. Undertaking. He doubted, himself incredibly. But it didn't, stop him from trying, to bring balance back to the world quite frankly the only one disturbing, our balance is you Harry, you're the last person to criticize anyone about balance dot don't, start, I'm just saying those who trip in glass houses shouldn't, throw stones it's, live in glass houses I know what I said you're, OK you, remind me of a certain character from Avatar the, independent. Streak waiting. For all of this to be over and, dare, I say the. Attitude, I don't have an attitude I just. Don't need this I can solve my own problems. Plus I wouldn't even be here if I'd have been forced so if you don't mind or if you do I don't care I'm, gonna reclaim the hour that was stolen, from me. So. This is your first time in therapy nothing, between Donna has changed, or at least I haven't changed so I don't think we need the avatar, as much as you think we do CK. This behavior reminds me of a young Sokka as initial, impression, of egg Sokka. Lived his life preparing. For a war with the Fire Nation when. Aang showed up the supposed Avatar. Sokka, felt like Aang was ill-equipped, to, solve the modern, world's problems, we can't fight firebenders with, fun how could he solve something he didn't know the first, thing about, is.
That How you feel about me. No. No. I'm not if, anything I think I would be old waterbender, and I'm not Sokka Larry, you, and Sokka do have a lot in common let me tell you. Drive, not. If he's from a Water Tribe Larry's, not much of a swimmer you know what I like about Sokka what, King, nothing. Oh. Don't. Sokka, he's smart in that capable, warrior I've changed my mind let's hear him out done but unlike, everyone else in his group he can't bend an element, so whenever, he has the opportunity he, leaps, at the chance to prove, himself even, though he doesn't have their natural, bending talents he does actually make, a difference with his ingenuity, okay, I guess I am pretty good however when he feels useless, in any given, circumstance he, will lash out he can be a bit stubborn and set in his ways also he had a pretty good sense of humor. All. Agree, I'm, pretty funny. But. I'm not stubborn. See. Classics. Are classics, ah, I'd, say I'm more like king with a job booming these names mean nothing to me Bumi sake vodka, yeah. Larry, don't threaten violence. You can't fight us. Let's spin it's. Okay Larry no character, I can name would be a perfect, parallel to your life and your situation, there are many elements of many different characters, we can all relate to for, example, in the last session when you mentioned that dot was suffocating, you it reminded, me of my foot we're free babe I don't remember saying that at all I wouldn't say that did I say that. So. You don't remember, perhaps. That's an example of you lashing. Out as a defense mechanism I don't know soccer responds the same way when he feels that people, are pointing, out his inadequacies, maybe. Dot admitting, that she felt the disconnect, is making you feel like there is something wrong with you thus. Leading. To this behavior I don't know I. Really. Don't, cheat. You. Would have thought it would have caught on to something like this a while ago okay. But. What. I'm going through is a little bit more than self-doubt, you're probably right but like, Aang you have support right what. About your sister oh yeah. Oh she's. She's. Always been there for me yeah. She's. She's going, off to college soon. Is. That why you want these sessions to end what. Well the would stop to your Snoopy is leaving, so, do you feel that you, have to quickly become, independent. Before that time comes I don't. Know I didn't. Think about that, maybe. That'd. Be funny though because she's, the only one in my family that thought me going to therapy was a good thing, Oh what about the rest of your family well, uh I, know. I don't really talk about it with my brother but, um my mom, she. Doesn't love it it. Offends her I guess like she feels like this, is my way of telling, her. She did something wrong good, grief and, your dad. Do. You see that pecan me you, see this take. Note of that that's important I can't see your pupils that's not good it doesn't think I need it he thinks, I'm fine that I don't, have real, problems oh sure, and there, is no war in Ba Sing se you know what I mean I don't I don't know what you mean avatar reference about a conspiracy involving the denial of an unpleasant truth in an effort to keep the peace oh okay sure. Yeah. He's always pointing to my brother as an example, you know like your, brother wouldn't do that or your, brother one paint, his nails like, that that's, like okay you got me dad all I've ever wanted in my miserable life was to be more like Chad his. Name is Chad. It's. Funny like I I I. Was. The one who ended up with the legacy name even though I'm not the firstborn Oh your dad's name is the only good to know. Elliott. Is my preferred name it. Was my middle name, my. Parents, named me. Herbert. Jr., ah that's. Right that was in your paperwork I would. Have gone with Elliott - now. You two have been together for, 15, years correct that's right you, have a great, memory thank you, I also, have a handy-dandy notebook. Funny. Enough Sokka was 15 when his whole adventure began but tell. Me about your. Venture how, did you two lovebirds first, meet I don't know if I can recall I remember. It was a crisp autumn day, I was the director of a bold and, daring version, of Hamlet where no one dies no, one died in your version of Hamlet it was the family-friendly, version. Oh it, was a great show I had. Just moved to town and. Went immediately to, join the local theater community, I volunteered. To become Larry's, stage manager, because I admired. His drive to see this production through and just how much he had invested himself into the show not.
To Mention I, admired. His roguishly. Handsome, face, okay. All right and she was a perfect, stage manager. Attentive. Consistent. And. Stunningly. Attractive. Oh guys. Guys, I'm still over here. I, haven't, had a stage manager since that cared about a production, so much, strange. Not eating to have my hands in everything all the time I for. Once. Was. Able to trust him enough to do the job oh, that. Is cuter, than a saber-tooth, moose lion, cub, no. Larry, you had mentioned that dot was the first person you could trust to do the job were. There issues before, well no one else would treat the situation like she would she'd. Help and be. Attentive, not. Only to my needs but to those of the cast. Did. A much lighter hand than mine, normally. If there was a problem I wouldn't dwell on it I would solve it then and there no going around it no clever solutions, I face the problem head on and, get it solved, dad's methods, were admittedly more popular, than mine golly are you sure that you haven't watched this show before because you're you're. Practically quoting, it no. Animation. Makes me queasy. Pop. Up never let me watch cartoons, now I can. Barely stomach, them, oh. I'm. Sorry to hear that um but I recommend you give animation, another shot at. Least for this show if you deal with things the way you say you do then I believe you might really identify, with a certain, runway you know boy I might okay. No I'll tell, you who I'm like. Wow. Okay you're pretty tough on Sokka. Holy. Sh sorry. My apologies for the fun, let's talk Toph beifong what do you like about her who is top top, is an earthbending, master I, don't know. Take. Your pick she's vocal about her opinions and faces every problem, head-on, especially. If it's a problem people tell her she can't handle on her own people see me and think I'm weak they. Want to take care of me but I can take care of myself. By myself. Sound. Like you well and no one knows you better than your, BAE bong do kids still say oh. I've. Been a teacher for years and, I just stop trying to keep up, so. Can you tell me why I had of all the characters Toph takes the title belt like. When representing, you toss the top choice, maybe. It's because Toph trains over tough tasks and troubled some tragedy I'm getting carried away please go on Toph doesn't take anything lying down she, has her own disability. But she never lets it get in the way even though I was born blind I've, never had a problem seeing I, see. With earthbending it's, kind, of like seeing with my feet she, takes what people think is weakness and she turns it into strength oh that's. Right I remember seeing in your paperwork you deal with a disability, yourself yeah but you've probably never heard of it try me ehlers-danlos, syndrome you're right I have not heard of that one I am sorry yeah that's what I thought don't. Sweat it though you're not alone in your ignorance oh good it's a connective, tissue disorder, it creates a lot of joint pain among other things and, I was diagnosed officially about, two, years ago but. I've always known that something was up you know I wasn't. Normal. I can never really jump, or climb or, run like other people my age that, must have made things pretty difficult growing up yeah, I used to hang out with friends and just watch. Them doing stuff that normal, kids do like. Climbing. Trees or, climbing. Fences, whatever. Able-body, kids do and I would just know that I probably shouldn't do that you know alright, get hurt so, I just watch them have fun people. Often treated me like someone that needed to be taken care of and I did not care for that so, you often found yourself, in a position similar, to Toph right some might even say a position, similar to Sokka, as well what, he, felt out of place at, times because for most of the journey his group consisted. Entirely of benders, it made him feel less. Than each of you is so amazing, and so special, and, I'm, no.
I'm, Just the guy in the group who's regular. Is. That, something. You can relate to as, a matter of fact. More. Like uncle. Whoa. Coming, in hot there I've. Heard of Agni Kai but this is ridiculous. Been. Waiting to make that joke so. You don't, feel out of place among your friends nope they're great I'm great just a bunch of great people get around being great oh you skate well, I. Mean. They skate more than I you I mean I can, skate, it's just in, order to feel more comfortable, I have to wear protective gear, and stuff. And it all makes me look pretty dorky so I'd rather not which is fine I just, chill while they do their thing it's, no big deal do you feel like you might be, prioritizing. Appearances. Over having, a good time with your friends no. No no, we're not doing this. Lauren. Who. Is that person. Man. Hey. Guys hey welcome. This is Enrique's exquisite, eatery come, on down the food is delicious. Where. Is it I don't know you gotta find it, we. Got a swing. Who, is that person, man. Omegle. I'm, Lauren. She's. One who dragged me here she's, constantly in my face saying that's, stupid. And they don't like you the way you are then they don't deserve you, nobody. Can say like mmm. A sunshine. And rainbows, mm-hmm. Sounds. Like you don't like her I do I'm, just being, an out oh well, Elliot from what you've told me you, have even more in common with the little Airbender than I thought from what I told you while many of Aang's initial, struggles are in his fear that this life was, never meant for him I already told you how they forced his training years before he was ready and how, his disappearance. Led. To the Fire Nation taking. Over much of the world, circumstances. Like these would easily make someone, feel guilty. And unsuitable. For some sort of great. Destiny, I still don't see how when Katara and Sokka release, him Katara, asked sang about the Avatar Aang lies and, says I didn't know him I mean I knew, people that knew him you see any had developed, somewhat, of an impostor, syndrome saying. To the world look you. Got the wrong guy, Elli. Would it be fair to say that you, may not feel suited, to carry your father's name I. Yeah. I guess, I, mean that's not the only reason why I don't like the name but. The. Whole legacy thing is definitely uncomfortable. So. I have imposter, syndrome it may be part of the issue oh well great, that. Doesn't help me get any better well sure he does because, I can say see, that I told you I'm not a Herbert my therapist, say you don't approve of sets up no because you can't fix their problem if you don't know where to look one, of the things about impostor, syndrome is, not giving yourself credit, for the accomplishments.
And Progress, you've made in book, 1 episode, 12 the storm pain gets confronted, by a fisherman who calls, him out avatar, disappeared, for a hundred, years you, turn your back on the world and, chooses, to believe these words because they, are what he believes about himself he, neglects, the facts that he's already been journeying training. And waterbending, and helping, people along the way thank you, you. Are here trying to improve yourself you. Have a sister, who loves you for who you are and a supportive. Friend who advised you to come see me in the first place and I'm sure I'm only scratching, the surface like, an who eventually overcomes, his self-doubt to save that same fisherman, you owe this boy an apology you'll, overcome, yours and, progress, will become, apparent, a bit the day it's just hard. To believe that when other people don't doesn't, when I'm when other people don't see it that way I'm sorry I can't I don't but, I don't, I account with words dad you, strike me as having the true blue spirit of Katara. Isn't. That a Japanese sword, no but she's just as sharp. All. Right Katara, is kind, and compassionate when, she was very young she tragically. Lost her mother so she was forced to grow up fast she quickly took on a maternal, role in her village and in her relationships. She's a waterbender too the only one from her village, even though female, waterbenders were, considered, to be strictly, healers, in the Northern Water Tribe Katara. Displayed, her aptitude and proved, that she was worthy to be trained, to become an amazing, warrior and a waterbending. Master that, said she didn't give up on being a healer she just knew that she had the ability to become more than just. What was expected of her do. You think I'm like who, wouldn't you said yourself you were forced into a maternal, role but you took it all in stride and you're, clearly adaptable, to different situations, Allah, you're moving, to town and meeting Larry story you quickly put yourself out there and showed, how capable you were couldn't, agree more love. You're an amazing, woman, you're. Both taking. To the relationship, similarly, to how Toph, and Katara took. To teaching hang earthbending, and waterbending, respectively, when top first tried to teach aang earthbending, it proved to be pretty, difficult for. Tops rigid, and strict style of teaching was the opposite, of Katara's, positive, and nurturing approach both, needed. To learn from each other on how to teach hang in the best possible way because no, one way is correct although Katara's. Way is preferred by hang at first toss, sway is the one that leads Aang to face adversity and, stand, his ground Toph learns to soften up and Katara, learns the mother that group less as the story goes on both of you a need, to learn how to best teach your Aang, you. A with sokka's girlfriend, who. We lost. She. Turned into the moon that's. Rough Betty may, be Lauren's right but your friends won't judge you for how you look but how would she know she doesn't know my friends yeah I didn't claimed a believer, I mean if rocket, power taught me anything about skateboarders. It's that thing value friendship, above. All else I don't, know in, my experience it's, better to just blend in sometimes, I understand, Kai standing. Out can, be pretty, scary, why. Did Lauren force. You to come here there must be something, that she was concerned about she believes I need to open up more about. Myself, hmm and you disagree there's parts of myself that people don't need to know well it seems like Lauren.
Believes Their traits worth sharing I don't know I don't want anyone to think I'm like a geek, or something. Geeks. Are awesome, not, in my experience my, geeky. Interests, aren't really thought of as cool like what enjoying, cartoons, yeah. And. I play video games. Kind. Of a lot I don't think there's anything weird about that no, you don't, get it Gaming, is something I could actually do well so, I became very good. Mmm I learned to mane Fox and hang on what mane Fox are we talking about here Robin Hood Swiper Todd Nick Wilde the fantastic mr. Fox or the Fox is on my sax isn't. You. You. Are a lot, a lot to love foxes, from this game Super Smash Bros well not originally, but that's the game I'm talking about oh I got really good as him and it's, stupid, but I kind of studied. The best players I could find online to get even better and then, I started entering tournaments, and Wow. What me getting into other games like I now regularly, win prizes like Luke by placing first and overwatch tournaments, on battle fie boy. This. Must be how others feel when, I talk about cartoons they haven't seen and that's why I don't bring it up no one cares that my stupid boss no I didn't, say that just because I'm not familiar with your passions doesn't mean your passions are stupid they aren't stupid to Lauren and if your friends are truly friends your passions, won't be stupid to them either I don't know I can see why you were late to talk like her you didn't let your circumstances. Stop you you may not have snuck, out at night to learn the ancient earthbending, practices, of the badgermoles bots you learn tricks and techniques from, online sources to hone your craft, and have, become one of the most fearsome, competitors, and specialized, competitions. Yeah. I guess, you. Know there. Is another person who I think you may be able to relate to who we also learn about in that storm episode, perhaps, because Aang and this person, have similar. Journeys, with self-worth. Zuko. This. Isn't Danny Zuko from Greece no it's. Not, please. We're we're, talking about cartoons, this is serious, Zuko. Is one of the main antagonists. For a good portion of the show his sole mission right from episode, one being, to capture, the avatar for, the sake of the Fire Nation and, he. Is always, grumpy why don't you enjoy a cup, of calming, jasmine, tea. I don't need any calming tea, wow I'm feeling so good about myself with this comparison just hang on a mo mo over, the episodes, it becomes clear that Zuko, is after, the avatar for, more than just the sake of the Fire Nation there are moments where Zuko withholds. Information from, and even, sabotages. The efforts, of other, members of the Fire Nation also. He can be the one to hand the avatar over to his father Fire, Lord Ozai and regain. His honor regain, his honor yeah, he lost it after speaking out of turn in a meeting stating, that sacrificing, a whole Fire Nation troop as a simple distraction, and a battle plan was not a good idea what, an offense am i right his father punished, him by spoiler. Alert facing, off against him in combat burning. And permanently, scarring, his face and banishing. Him from the kingdom until he returned, home with the avatar that uh sounds. Like a bad dad that sounds like an understatement I haven't seen the show how.
Bad Did he burn bad from, then onwards Zuko, became this embittered. Soul leading, a crew in search of the avatar, and becoming. An enemy of Aang's and that doesn't sound very fair it doesn't, does it if only Zuko, realized, sooner that he's worth did not stem from what his father thought of him or wasn't, diminished, by his father's constant, praising of his sister Azula, if only he learned to trust the words of his loving mother who was no longer in his life and a support, of his wise uncle Iroh who always believed, in him it maybe. Could have saved him a lot of internal, struggle did, it get better for him oh it did though, he didn't get there alone as Iroh. Once said while it is always best to believe in oneself, a little. Help from others, can be a great blessing. Even. Though he had to fall even more in, his father's eyes he trusted, his uncle and started a new path for himself a decision, that was so revolutionary. He literally, experienced. A fever and a. Metamorphosis. Of sorts even, after this there were backward, steps for him but, he ultimately changed. For the better too Zuko. Times. He tried to snuff us out today he'd be our hero. So. He never, proved, himself to his dad well, never. Truly but I mean the, fire Lord's not a. Great. Guy so it's probably for the best I know, your father isn't the. Fire Lord but Zuko, had, to be good enough for himself, he, didn't need to prove himself to anyone, else and in the end the people who truly loved, him were, there through it all Wow people, who truly loved, him can't. Relate. Elliot. Why. Didn't you have a real talk with. Your boyfriend Mitchell. KY. As much. As I see Toph within you why. Do you have this aversion to identifying, with Sokka um cuz he's annoying and he can't do anything don't. I'm not good enough to kidnap Oh. Kai, you can't. Mean that you watch the show you know how he can't, even, bend like the others you know bending, the whole reason you watch the show he's. Known for his great ideas, but a a guitar and Topher needed to make his ideas work not, to mention the others have had great ideas -, better than sock is in some instances, he relies on others, he's not taken seriously and he's a whiny baby. Weak. But Connie its weak, well sake weak. Sokka. May not be able to bend like his friends but when, it came down to it he relied, on his instincts, like when jet came along and he knew that guy was sketchy so Sokka ended up saving an entire town his, lack of bending, ability forced, him to adapt.
And Develop a resourceful nature, that we don't see in a lot of bending characters, it's a strength, in its own right, so i'm sokka because i'm less than i didn't say that well that's what I'm hearing, look. In my group of friends I'm already pretty different, and I don't just mean the EDS I'm not enough to add on that I'm obsessed with, video games they've to wear finger. Braces to play which, mind you I used to get made fun of all the time for in school yeah, I'm a weirdo now you know. But. That doesn't need to be anyone, else's business. Kaien. Your. Feelings, are completely. Valid. I do. Want, to stress that there is an important, distinction between. Feeling. Less than and, actually. Being less. Than which you definitely aren't, your. Differences. Are what make you so. Spectacular. As an individual. Both Sokka and Toph, felt different, they, both had to begin somewhere and worked, to utilize, their best traits to, kick. Butt their own ways, although. Violence, is, never. The answer. Yeah. I guess I could did, have some fine moments, I mean, he did have that meteor sword whoo right, that thing was the coolest so, I need, to learn how to be more flexible and I need to learn to be more independent how. Can i how. Do I stop being such a, mom. Huh. It's, clear that my doting attitude, towards Larry paired. With worrying. About everything, all the time is not helping anyone. I'm. Just mothering. In them knowing, you know, my. Sweet Turtledove, you. Could never annoy me the, worst you could do is, make. Me need a nap turtle, duck you have seen the show I said turtle dove sure, Larry. Died. Mothers, don't have a monopoly on those traits and you don't necessarily need. To stop exhibiting, them there's, nothing wrong with showing that, you care about Larry, instead of focusing on getting rid of your nurturing, side you need to work on building, your independent. Side it's duality. Like with the Kyoshi warriors in, Episode four but, one book, one I thought this was a cartoon, show the Kyoshi Warriors, are a team of elite fighters and they're all women, Sokka, at one point apologizes. To Suki the leader of the Warriors for treating her like a girl when he should have been treating her like a warrior, Sookie's response I am a warrior. But. I'm a girl too she's, not one or the other she's both and you can learn to balance the different aspects of your personality too, you, just have to realize that there isn't any side of you that is lesser, than any other this, is actually something Larry appears to do quite well did. You just compliment my balance. Last session I gather that you weathered the murky dismal social and emotional pressure, your grandfather put on you and came, out of it fully embracing, your sexual identity and shining, for all to see, is. That right I. Guess. That's true I mean I guess, I was really just allowing.
Myself To be myself more than anything hmm. Self-acceptance. Is even more satisfying, than cactus, juice he'll, quench yeah. Tough. Also, experienced, dissonance, between who, she truly was and who, her caretakers, thought she was she, hated, the way she was constantly, coddled. Growing up and interpreted, it as people, believing, she was incapable. Of taking care of herself you aren't really coddled, quite. The opposite, but you each had a personal. Journey to track in order to arrive at the place where you could both be your authentic selves, your independence. And commitment. To self-reliance. Is admirable. Thank. You I, thought. We were pretending like Mitchell didn't exist yeah but, he does exist final. Session I'd like to work through as much as possible why not try to have an open discussion about, some of the anxiety, you feel in your relationship, and how, he might be able to help you. There's. No winning like. Like. He, doesn't want to go to therapy, because. He doesn't see the point, but. Then he turns around and gets mad at me for. Going without him look. And, no no he can't see you with me anymore, I've, tried. Bringing, things up and. He's. Never ready, there's. Never a good time. It. Doesn't. Do anyone any good. It doesn't do me any good mm-hmm. Well. Zuko. Had to learn to deal with his sister Azula, for a similar reason she. Had mastered, the art of lightning, generation. The, cold-blooded. Firebending. But lightning is hot that, it is Eliot yeah, yeah, yes, Zuko. Is taught that the only way to deal with lightning, was by redirecting. It away it, was still dangerous. To deal with such energy but it was the only way to take it head-on and potentially. Avoid getting hurt that may be something, you have to do with Mitchell or any, family member when dealing with important, things that must be discussed. Redirecting. Their negative, energy away from you and not, letting it hurt you in confrontation. I know. Easier, said than done but, you'll get there in, scooby-do-be-do. Time just. Remember, Larry that you don't need to be completely, self-sufficient in order to prove your independence, your. Personal, strength is not devalued, when you let someone else, do. Nice things for, you I know that I guess. It's just hard for me to understand the need for grand, gestures. You're. My best friend dot you. Don't need to do anything more than just. Be around me the way you always are. I wish. I knew why that wasn't enough for me hmm. Have. You two ever heard, of the five love, languages, I think so, what. Defines how different people express love right exactly. Everyone, communicates love, to others differently but the idea, of the love languages, is that all forms, expressions, of love can take can be summed up into these five languages, words of affirmation quality. Time gift-giving, acts of service and physical touch. We already use all of those. Maybe. So, but typically people have one primary language that they favored over the others or that they respond, to best well hello. Much. Like the Avatar, had to master all four elements maybe. It's time that YouTube learned to master, and utilize each other's, primary, languages, dad, you, really seem to enjoy doing, favors, for other people might, acts of service also be the language that speaks to you best I don't know maybe. It. Is nice to put effort into doing, something nice for someone you love and. Yeah. For. That someone. To. Show their appreciation. Through. More than just words. Hmm. And Larry you've, expressed several times that the method of support that you favor is quality, time yeah, I, mean. It when I say that that's all I need from doct you both need to find a middle ground when it comes to communicating. Your love you, need compromise, how do we do that well, it entails working on and practicing, the love language, that speaks to your partner best it, may take a while but you'll get there in yabba-dabba-doo. Timing, however if this still seems like a daunting task it may be best to look at that cave of two lovers. Is. That like a is. That like a vacation spot or I'm, saying that you and dot will only get over your mountain, of issues by working together to come, up with your solution, much like Katara and Aang did when faced with the cave of two lovers in Episode two of book two a lot, of the time there isn't going to be an obvious path, that, leads you to all the right answers sometimes.
It's Good to take the leap of faith let, the fire burn out and let, love lead, the way the, path will, reveal, itself to you trust. Yourselves, trust, in the idea that you two can work things out as long. As you're working together. Even. If you're lost you can't lose. The love because. It's, in your heart. Sorry. At the end of the day Kai whichever, character makes you feel like you can conquer the world is a great, role model except. Maybe your Zula or Ozai poor so listen or chin the Conqueror or, none of the people who actually tried, to conquer the world yeah if, you see yourself as tough I'm all for it just, don't forget that any similarities, to Sokka you may see in yourself aren't, as bad as you think it's, okay to have a little of both just. Keep in mind uncle Iroh is lesson two Zuko, about the different nations and the natures of their people each nation, had specific, strengths, endurance. Passion. Community. And inner, peace it was important, to draw wisdom from. Different, places if we take it from only one place it. Becomes rigid and, stale. Understanding. Others the, other elements. And the. Other nations, will. Help you become whole ah I, like that part too although, just, a bit of constructive criticism if, you're, gonna use the metaphor for embracing all parts of ourselves a cleaner example, it'd definitely be the Shockers the crew of Pathak teachers hang about in book 2 episode 19 ah yes, the seven chakras dealing. With survival pleasure willpower love truth insight and pure cosmic, energy each of them watch respectively, by fear guilt shame grief why the wish an earthly attachment, and if we worked on each of those issues within ourselves maybe, short of letting go of support of loved ones in our lives it absolutely could help us feel better with our self-worth well done Kai we'll. Give you that. Are. You doing rocket power no. Nevermind I see, for you focus, on that fear and shame you seem to be harboring take. Steps to embrace, your passions, your, friends, and Lauren, will, appreciate, it self-improvement, can be a difficult, journey but we can all get, there in, blue skidoo' we. Can do. Time. Sometimes. I try to switch things up in order to avoid repeating material yeah. They're not all winners look, Elliot uncle, Iroh who is a firebender. Was able to teach Zuko how to redirect, lightning only. Because he had previously studied water, benders and their techniques, think. Of the four elements as different, parts of yourself, perhaps, by working, on other elements within yourself you will hone the technique, of redirecting. Negative energy as well. As further, developing, yourself worth, of it's like you said no easier said than done I. Wouldn't. Even know where to start. Then. I'll leave you with this Elliot one. Of Aang's best, friends, an earthbender, king named Bumi, explains. To him the concept, of Jing, fighting. Is positive, Jing and retreating. Is negative, Jing but. Then Bumi reveals a third kind, neutral. Jing, this. Consists, of doing neither and waiting. For the opportune, moment to strike. Stay. With me you're, right Elliot if, you're feeling terrible, about yourself, I can't just tell you to start thinking you're amazing. Or beautiful, but. We. Can start working in the neutral, whenever. These doubts and insecurities. Pop up perhaps, you can try thinking, maybe. It's. Possible. That. I'm not as worthless as I think I am these. Bridge, thoughts are examples, of living, in the neutral, it's in the neutral that we're able to change and by, taking the time to be in that state perhaps. The healthiest, perspective, will, find you well, it. Looks like that's all the time we have for today thanks again for your help doctor hopefully. Larry and I can apply what we've learned today and, we're, gonna understand each other better I have the utmost confidence, you will you. Two are smart, motivated. People who, really seem to value each other as individuals and, in, your relationship. Remember. Love. Is brightest, in the dark it's, great that you two both came into the last session, this one not, only to work out your issues but. Also you're, both so darn funny I mean. You. Always have me in stitches. Do. And all your cartoon, references. I. Really. Appreciated, your openness today KY sincerely. Maybe. We can set. Up another time to talk yeah sure. Maybe. About. It no pressure, I hope, to hear from you, also. For the record I knew Katara and Sokka were from the Southern Water Tribe it was a ploy to get you to open up mm-hmm sure was it.
Was I. Definitely. Knew it I'm. A sly trickster, like that. Look. This is what I was writing when you were correcting me yeah. Okay. Well I went into a lot of detail about complicated. Plot lines but I don't know which pole the main characters, are from sure. That's. Believable I guess. I. Did. Know it. Thanks. Dr pecan me for. Everything of course Elliot and remember. Even though most people aren't, the avatar, the goal is to try to be more like the avatar, in that similar, to how the avatar, brings balance to the world, we, must work to bring balance to ourselves, okay. So. I guess, um yeah. Ba ba ba ba ba ba that's all folks. That. Was terrible, and. Also. Incorrect. I'll. See you at the next appointment. Really. But. I thought while it is always best to believe in himself a little. Help from others can be a great. Thing. It's. Uh. It's. Blessing. Right. Yeah. By. Go. With. My next client ty. Like. Agni, Kai, gotta. Make a joke about that Oh. I, just. Want to let you know that for this video we had the help of Kati, Morton hi everybody I am a licensed therapist and I have a mental health channel on YouTube where I talked about yes. Links. For her channel are in the description, they're awesome so thank you so much JD. Absolutely. Now Chuck. Hey. Let's. Leave. Drink. Cactus, juice it'll. Quench you nothin's quench, here it's not quench, it. Look. Like a beached whale.