BRINGING YOUR GIRL WEST - One Filipina's Story Of Life In A Foreign Land
hi folks the filipina pea here and with travel restrictions finally easing all over the world a lot of you guys are considering bringing a filipina to your home in the west but before you consider doing that, there are a lot of things you need to know. Is it possible? is it wise? will she suffer a culture shock? and most importantly what are the risks involved? well today we're lucky enough to have a couple that's been through it all and we can hear about the process as well as the culture shock. do people in the west stare at them? did the filipino find work? what does she think of life in the west? this is gonna be interesting hey james good morning yeah it's nice to see you both how are you i'm good that's great so james and malyn are a mixed couple living in the united states um which state james the state of ohio wow it's cold there right now right malyn yes so guys please tell us your story how long have you known each other we've known each other for right at four years and we've been married for three you guys have known each other for four years and been married for three years wow how did you guys meet uh believe it or not on facebook a christian webpage on facebook okay so facebook is the culprit of this union correct okay had anyone told me years ago that i would meet my wife on the internet i would never have believed it yeah well technology eh? so guys what's the age gap between you 32 years really it doesn't show you look younger than your age james uh if you don't mind me asking i will be 61 in two more weeks two more weeks so you're turning 61 in two more weeks and malyn's 28. well advance happy birthday thank you so james have you ever ... i'll give you my address later on and you can send a gift all right because your mailing system works oh yes we do have a mailing system that works so james have you ever been to the philippines yes i spent many months in the philippines uh on three separate occasions how long have you been in the united states maylyn? four months oh four months so um what do you do what kind of job uh does malyn do a laundry a very big machine five people to the machine giant machines that do all of the laundry and they come down to their belt and then she grabs the napkins off and folds them it's a an easy job but somewhat fast-paced okay so meilin are you surprised that everything is automatic in the united states the doors that's her favorite word that's when when she first after her first three weeks here i asked her what would you describe in one or two warheads your experience so far in the us and she said automatic so was it easy to get in um what visa did you apply for cr1 cr1 visa which is um a spousal visa right james was it hard to get um a spousal visa it's very hard very many difficult steps uh unlike even friends of mine they they pay in attorneys you know pretty good money uh to make the application i did it all myself but uh the waiting periods are a little frustrating when you file initially and then you it goes from the uscis to the nbc you know that can be a 10-month period of time going through those two american organizations before they ever allow manila to even see the paperwork to be able to put you on the roster for trying to obtain your visa okay so how long was the process in total uh our total was almost two years wow where did you guys get married here in the philippines or in the united states in the philippines okay so are you guys planning to live here in the philippines or retire here in the philippines james i am yes uh i want to i'm only waiting until she gets her um citizenship once she has her citizenship then we'll apply again for dual citizenship in the philippines and uh that way she can draw my social security and you know she's working and she'll be able to draw social security so i want to make sure she's set up properly before i leave here um i know it's quite hard to get a spousal visa was she approved the first time she was denied the first time yeah and very upset naturally and that was because she did not she had a late registration ever birth certificate why was it a hard time about facebook as well and they kept asking her questions about facebook because of that and that was what the excuse that they used anyway uh but she got denied because of that and then they gave her a list of items that she had to uh accomplish many things she had to get me my own story english a love story i love story many things so makes me i had a writing i had to write a love story how i met her and ongoing uh and one issue that gracie your friend that you've interviewed many times the attorney informed me of because i had a zoom meeting with her as well when she got denied is that when you uh if you're talking on facebook they expect to see lots of chat records oh she had she had about three pages i think of chat logs and gracie said oh no you need like 100 pages of chat bob okay so uh i i actually ended up sending over 400 pages of chat logs 400 yes i emailed them to her and she took them and had them printed out in manila and i said but gracie informed me she said whatever they ask for give them way more than they ask for so i did that i bet the the chat logs were rated g are they always work oh my god that's a lot of paperwork and to think that you guys are already married i was expecting that it should have been easier for malin to uh get to the um get to the states yeah so many americans think that once you marry someone in another country they're pretty much automatically here in three or four months that's far from the truth so james did any of your friends and family tell you that you were crazy to bring a beautiful young woman to the west surprisingly i can't remember one person having an issue with that most of them of course you know i'm at this point in time i'm 56 years old when i'm going to marry her and uh there there's everybody thinks is great you're finally getting married so you know maybe if i were 20 or 30 or something they might you know have a different take on it but at this point they're like oh congratulations you're finally getting married to a very pretty girl nice girl so yeah i nope i had no nobody no detractors aren't you afraid that she might leave you for a rich young doctor well um our situation i think in my eyes is a little different than the average person's uh she is a staunch christian uh she was a virgin had never been on a date in her life and said she would never go on a date and never kiss a guy and never hold a man's hand until she was married how if she doesn't believe that she doesn't believe in divorce so and neither do i and uh so i really don't have any worries along those lines you got a keeper james you lucky duck so what can you advise um our viewers out there when finding their future wife in the philippines i'm a little biased but i always say go for the province girl i'm i'm pro-province girl province girls okay well i can see that uh maylin is the perfect depiction of a province girl very modest very feminine yeah i can hear my mother describing the you know the perfect the london pilipina that's what we call it so melin you didn't have any boyfriends before james wow he's birth he is the first and last of them she's ever considered i just i i am lucky i believe so what about your family mainland what was the first impression of james um they are very happy you know america they're very happy because she's american tell me about it well i'll help you out a little bit because you're she's so shy security obviously from their standpoint she's going to have your daughter's going to have a decent life she's going to have a much better life than they would ever expect her to have okay and i'm quite pleased that they're pleased with that they treated me like a son from the very minute although her dad is not quite 10 years younger than me i don't believe remember correctly he's quite 10 years younger but he's younger uh but i mean they treated me wonderful from the very beginning she has to translate her parents neither one can speak english same as my parents my mom knows how to uh well do you want coffee are you okay basically that's the only thing uh she knows but um you mentioned that her parents are younger than you so you don't feel any awkwardness that you're calling them dad or something like that yeah they're i mean they're the happiest people i've ever met overall filipinas are that way but um for parents i mean they're just always happy and always kind and and always smiling and very sweet people so guys i i i will be a little nosy are you guys gonna have kids what are your plans in the future one way and one girl ah that's the plan yeah it started out with about five i finally convinced you two is the magic number so she's the one wanting five kids yes you know it may be more a basketball team but i convinced her you know filipinos don't have our mindset which says we must be able to afford them and we must be able to give them everything that they need and it's harder to get you have to take away from the other two if you have the third you have to take away from the other three if you have the four so in my mind two is perfect a boy and a girl would be wonderful but uh yes we do want children obviously i was just gonna ask if you guys get nasty stares because you know there are people that might be thinking negatively because of your age gap and she's a foreigner in a foreign land so when she arrived here she expected to be everyone staring at her and she was very shy to go out because she thinks everybody's going to be looking at her because in in rural ohio we live out the countryside and it's a small world of communities around here not large cities and nobody stares at us she said that's i did not expect this but because of the age gap for one and then because she's much different you know we don't see many filipino people in this in these rural communities of ohio um she thought that they would pay a lot of attention to her and she's like so surprised she said they just say hi and shake your hand or whatever and stop and talk to you and then go on but they don't think anything about me being different you know so she's she's very pleased with that that's great people are just you know minding their own business i mean i'm kind of in shock about it myself because i thought you know when we go to the walmarts and the malls and shopping centers that i expected some people to especially women to frown at the fact that there's a obvious age gap and i have not experienced it one time thus far that's great because i've heard um some mixed couples getting the nasty stare from older women you dirty old man how could you and then they feel pity for the girls like oh honey he deceived you oh you are you poor thing so that's great that you guys are um accepted and not getting any uh you know weird stares so melon do you like their food yummy it's yummy it's yummy our time uh we need to find the rice you need rice you need rice it's not enough you eat a big banquet and there's no rice it's only a snack so can you get rice there can you buy rice in walmart yeah oh yeah rice everywhere okay we just don't eat very much rice you know and you go to restaurants and you know you have to go to an almost an asian restaurant to find rice so just go to a regular american restaurant they don't have any rice she got to experience her first christmas tree here you haven't had a christmas tree before yeah i can also experience our thanksgiving you know our holiday of thanksgiving where we get the family together and have a nice piece yeah the turkey and the mashed potatoes and gravy and the green beans that's a roll and you know the pumpkin pie and all those things yeah the turkey how's the turkey did you like it yeah i like very yummy very yummy i actually made the turkey ah okay yeah that was great you're experiencing new things and you know what life has to offer so what's her favorite american food so far i spaghetti she likes the spaghetti not not a sweet spaghetti well no yeah i know filipinos love their sweet spaghetti spaghetti in the philippines and it turns my stomach stand it as i've said before sugar in spaghetti is sacrilege it shouldn't be that way so you like their their western spaghetti how about their burgers very thick big very very very very big sandwich yeah i've been just i think just like that i've never worn it it's hard to open it it's hard to finish it's a jawbreaker like you really have to open wide she likes the burgers you like those fries also right yeah very crispy uh french cut frenchy french fries they were very nice i love those okay our pizza is very good also oh my god yeah pizzas to die for so maylin how are the stores different in the united states uh the store in the philippines you need to open the door or something here is at automatic just the doors will open for you automatically so no guards opening up the doors so it's automatic okay automatic that's very very wide very wide the aisles are wide okay very large stores they always have what you need they don't say no stock sir sorry ma'am sir no stock they don't do that there oh always in stock never out of stock uh-huh and she she's a little shocked by the fact that you know we don't have three or four people accounting when we're at a register doing the you know counting your items and counting the items on their receipt and check this and check that you know they get the they scan your stuff you go through and you walk out the store with one person checking you out right and of course then you can always go through the automatic uh lines where you just scan it yourself scan your card and walk out the door so bailing they don't have trust issues with their customers there they trust their customers that they'll pay and like in the philippines we don't have self checkouts and yes i know there are three people in the counter checking the receipt tangling and everything and checking what she just checked so everything is smooth and fast yeah very fast i always thought it was very funny about all the people checking you out but at some point and i'm like hey all these people have jobs so that's good right so how about the traffic everything's organized here everything's organized yeah no trikes no jeepneys like like you know not even any motorcycles because it's cold right now true that's right that's right um what are the things that you miss about the philippines malin aside from your family she told me the other day was food she really likes the fact that her food has faces i know even i i eat the cheek if it's lichon i like the cheek we went to a market and they have the crab and they have the um the fish and shrimp and she's like look nothing has a head nothing has had no no just the clean meat that's all you get only only the only the half of it okay the cold legs the yeah i know anyway guys any um advice to um the viewers i've been asked a lot of times what dating site i recommend i said it's still best to come here and meet the person and there's nothing wrong if you join facebook groups you know where you guys met and a word of an advice that i would give guys that are looking for a filipina prospect is i think our situation is a little more unique than the average guy but if an american or you know european is interested in finding a wife really dude when you step off the plane you can find a girlfriend in a half an hour if you want to yeah you go to the mall and you will have filipinas approach you and you don't even have to be good looking so i mean my advice is go there and go find a girl because you'll find one that you like in a month easily if you're picky it may take you a month you know or or two weeks or vacation time you know what have you but very easy to find a wholesome filipino girl if you just go there right uh i've advised a couple of friends that have talked online to filipinas and had you know uh i don't know about this and i don't know she said this and then i i don't i don't know if i can trust this just forget all that just go there yes and person is very easy to do exactly and i totally agree and i'm not exaggerating when i said in in my previous videos that you can actually have an instant girlfriend here just being here and if a woman is very interested in having a relationship with a foreigner they will approach you but it doesn't mean to say they are the cheapy kind of women not necessarily there are of course there are some but if you are if you are i don't know if you're looking for something more um permanent more if you want to stay here longer then it's easy to actually find a woman you said if you're picky in a month you can you can find a girlfriend here it's not really it's not that difficult guys just be here yeah and then you can answer all the questions of you know is she really married and has children you know you don't have all of those issues because you're going to meet the family you know uh pretty quickly if you meet a filipina that you like yeah and um and and it's just um i i didn't know that obviously because because when i got off the plane i was approached a lot um before i even married her you know and um just within a half an hour i was approached and and when i went to the ball with her a woman approached me in the mall because she had i bought her into some new shoes and they were hurting her feet so i went to get a band-aid to put on where the new shoe was rubbing her foot and while i'm going to a store not very far from her inside the mall i'm approached by a girl and i said no i'm sorry i'm married and she goes well i don't she said i don't see her wife i said wow does it feel like a the twilight zone james yes i just want to add many guys think that you know if they can meet a filipina online they think they can bring her west it's not the case they cannot they cannot bring her to the west she'll never get a she'll never get a visa because as you've mentioned you have to show a lot of pictures together a lot of pictures together to make to prove that this relationship is legitimate it's ex it's existing because other things they think that they can just sponsor a filipina oh i have a girlfriend online um i'm sorry guys um i don't know i don't want to sound negative but they have this idea in their head that okay i'll ask her to come visit me or to be here with me let's say in the united states or in the uk other european countries it's not as easy as that guys i just made a video about the visa scam because we cannot just go buy a ticket we need visas and that's why some of the you know scammers are using that just an fyi guys you have to be here you have to meet the person absolutely yes very difficult it's a difficult process and it's a lengthy process yeah hours more so because of the virus and and the embassy being shut down um but even so it's still a somewhat lengthy process well i'm still dwelling with that refusal of my my visa i'm gonna try again and there are people thinking there are some of my some of my subscribers are saying why don't you just fly to mexico and just walk through the boards yeah a lot of us americans have issues about that border you know that i know it's like i'm thinking here i'm legitimately applying for a visa paying everything legally and stuff like that and why don't you want me there i just want to go on a vacation i'm not going to be staying there i'm not going to be just disappearing i have families here and i know i know from their standpoint plus there are cases before especially filipinos that they're you know known for overstaying and they're they're tagged as tag tago which means like tnt we call them like they're always hiding i understand it's just that yeah it was just it was just bad i had travel history and never had any overstaying um situation before i had my schengen visa before i had my uk visa before but u.s is like okay maybe the console at that time was not in a good mood maybe that's about it because it was just a two-minute conversation well guys i'm very very honored that you've shared your story with me and my viewers thank you so very much for being on the show i wish you both the best can i add that she has a vlog ah filipina experience filipina experience all right that's great so um what's your vlog about um life in the uh united states as a filipina she has a view of the philippines and here and there okay well maylene um send me your link to your vlog and i'll put it in the description box of this video and thank you so very much for you know for the time and good luck with your new life there in the united states in ohio it's been quite a nice time spending time with you b same here james thanks melin bye ah are you ready because it's time for a word from your captain if you've abandoned ship in the west then you're looking for a filipina first mate just listen to your captain p and you'll be shouting far she blows in no time at all there's nothing like the philippines to put a little fire in the hole and if you join me crew i'll get you there right as rain so subscribe to my channel hit that 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