Our Maternity Leave Plan - Running a Business as a Couple and with a Baby?! Q+A
Oh someone did ask, um hey does Ryan feel insecure knowing that you're so strong I was actually wondering if you could just tone it back a little bit, for the, for me. hello my strong strong friends Meg here. This is Ryan Usually Ryan is behind the camera if you've been here for a long time then you definitely know Ryan Ryan is my baby daddy my business partner we run buff chick supplements together we run um strong friends together and we run strong strong supply together He does most the work I'll be honest and then I am in front of the camera talking about all the work that he does taking all the credit just kidding but we did ask you guys to ask us questions on instagram so we're gonna do a Q&A before baby so that we can personally remember where we were at this very important time I am 38 weeks plus six days pregnant so I'll be 39 weeks pregnant tomorrow which means I could have a baby any day now which is really exciting you want to start - why don't you start I'm still screenshotting questions okay okay let's talk about baby, someone says Emma asked did you have any baby names you automatically vetoed or any joke names I was telling right I like when people do like names we're not using so I thought we could do that we do have a joke name and that is jambalaya because I think the name jambalaya if it weren't what it is I think it's really pretty sounding - little jumbo little jumbo I really like the name Ruby and Ryan's dad's name is Ramone and I wanted to call her Ruby Ramone I thought that would sound like such a rock star name we also very seriously considered the name violet he liked the name onyx and I thought it just sounded too - pokemon too pokemon and and then of course because of onyx he wanted to name her - geodude that got vetoed quick sorry my cough sounds so awful favorite habit each person has, like what's my favorite habit that you have and your favorite habit that I have please, I can't wait to hear what you have to say -well I asked the question so you go first okay my favorite habit and I learned this very early was that when I said something or expressed a concern you were very receptive to it and you could very I don't want to say easily but you can change your behavior to kind of not do that thing that I didn't like, you know what I mean I will say there's one that we still kind of struggle with sometimes not that you'll be able to tell in this video but sometimes Ryan will interrupt you to like finish his sentence and this is something that his entire family does so I can see why he does it so I try to be understanding but anytime I've said like hey you you keep like interrupting me can you not do that he'll take a step back and and that's just one example um of a bad habit that he has that um is kind of balanced by a really good habit because he's really receptive - I'm glad you shared that because youtube's not going to believe you at all why - because I'm very quiet on youtube yeah you are - and second of all it's probably because I, I'm- I don't know if I interrupt a disproportionate amount but i'm 100% less likely to call you out when you just interrupt - okay let's not get divorced but okay yeah fair enough a lot of people have very strong opinions on the direction of toilet paper should it be over, should it be under, Meg does neither she just leaves it on top - no I don't she doesn't replace the actual toilet paper roll she just leaves it on top - okay that's not as bad as interrupting people but what's your favorite actual habit that I have oh he's gotta think so hard I spent a lot of time thinking about the joke one that I don't know if I have a good one -I have a lot of great qualities uh your hair is good no Meg is, is - is it gonna be another joke no no no no - do you even like me because when i'm thinking about when we first introduced you to my old weightlifting coach when we lived in DC his name is mike choi great guy - i love this guy he's an awesome person and he was we were talking with another group with another mutual friend and he's like oh yeah meg's really sweet and then myself and the other person like looked at each other and just started laughing because we were like meg is many things sweet might not be in the top 30.
um but I've actually come around and it's probably because mike choi's a far wiser person than I am and he could like see through all the noise um but I think meg is a very sweet and endearing and affectionate person um and she she always gives great compliments and kind of finds the light in, in people not always in situations but usually in people um and that's a it's a great trait - I can see the good of people you think? yeah you might talk a lot of [ __ ] - I try really hard you guys Ryan how did you know meg was the one? - bro I have like eight screenshots of questions along that line we first started dating in dc we obviously didn't live together but we would probably spend every day after work together either at the gym or going to dinner or hanging out with friends or spending all weekends together I think we, we spent more time together during that first year than when we lived together in New York and I was working a lot just because of like schedules and stuff but we we were pretty inseparable I think what do you think? - yeah and did that tell you like oh she's not annoying me yet so she's the one? -I think the other way around I think I'm, I find it easy to get along with most people and I think Meg has a lower pain threshold or like a lower tolerance for other people and I think when she wasn't bothered by me it was a good thing - yeah well you're hot so I remember distinctly because a lot of people asked this question like when did you know that it was time to like move to the next step I remember Ryan had an opportunity we were both living in DC and Ryan had an opportunity to move to New York and we had been dating I think less than a year at this point we were spending a lot of time together and I when he was talking about interviewing in New York I'm like okay well I'm coming with you like obviously - actually even before that because probably less than six months into dating probably four or five I had a job interview for a great company in Boston and you said okay I'll go to Boston then and you were not looking forward to it but that's that's probably a better sign too - New York is cool, I would have hated to live in Boston not that, there's nothing I like visiting Boston it's just the winter - yeah would have been a struggle for me uh it was just very clear to me that we got along so well and we loved each other and we loved spending every moment of our time together someone recently asked me like are you and Ryan really affectionate or like really close and I'm like yes I just don't, we don't really share it that much on the internet and but we are like up each other's asses all day every day we spend every waking moment together obviously we run a few businesses together and we have, are growing a family together we also don't have that many other friends - yeah we're pretty gross at least not friends who live here so we um are very close and very affectionate but we try not to make other people feel uncomfortable by it which you know I think we did a okay job at hiding it so you like me - yeah you think I'm the one - you're - a one for sure tell us about Ryan handling you at powerlifting meets - oh this is a cool question because I personally think if you have a solid relationship, if your handler well if you have a certain kind of relationship having your partner as your handler is can be an ideal situation because usually your partner is like your training partner they know how you've been sleeping they know how you've been eating they know kind of everything so they can have a perspective on all the things that you've been going through to best support you in that situation so for us it's always worked out but I think we get along so well and we have we've never gotten like a huge blowout fight we're not just not that kind of couple whereas I know some people like butt heads a little bit more I feel like if you're a couple that doesn't butt heads that much it can be a great situation I remember there have been times where you've like run an attempt by me I was so confident in that attempt that I could just look at him be like yep that's the one and he knew to take me really seriously and not like kind of try to coach me out or into any other decisions - your partner probably has more confidence in you than you do sometimes - yeah and that can be a strength if you know the circumstances now me handling him with that same kind of relationship I'm just not that good at math so it's not uh as ideal of a situation so obviously if your partner is really good at math and has a great memory those are some of his awesome qualities that's going to set you up for success whereas like if the tables were turned I don't think I could be as good of a handler partner if you guys could take a family trip anywhere within the next year where would you go keep in mind we're going to have a baby very soon so it's going to be like the park the park that would be great to go to the park some day that's a decent time frame we will probably try to go to canada maybe in 20 like the first half of 2022 - yeah hopefully while there's still some winter left to see my family and do some activities and enjoy whistler we are planning to go to the arnold this year planning to go - what family trips are you doing uh we're gonna be at the arnold, we're gonna be at our manufacturing facility in the fall no yeah we're taking a california trip hopefully with uh our buff chick athletes we are also considering getting married uh and having a big wedding we should probably tick that off the list so in between expos we might get married I think you probably say canada because we are a little nervous because uh Ryan's parents are in spain right now it's been a really slow vaccine rollout in certain parts of the world which is sad and also I don't think europeans can come to the u.s right now so borders are closed for europeans and so we're a little nervous like when can baby's grandparents lolo and lola I think that's what we're going to call them yeah which is the filipino way to say grandparents so hopefully we can meet them in canada or we can meet them somewhere else so that's kind of the biggest priority is making sure that baby can meet her lolo and lola - that's up there but anyway baby meet and greet at the arnold uh what's the booth number - and during all these travels I'm sure people have a lot of opinions about traveling with babies don't do it any kind of parenting opinion that I hear on the internet is always like uh under the tone of like parenting is the worst thing ever we will be hiring or bringing in support for any of these travels so any work trip we'll probably have another family member come and fly them out with us so that we can have some help obviously because we'll also be working we're not shy about asking for help or hiring help still undecided about the whole hiring thing but yeah I'm sure people anytime they hear traveling with the baby they're like --- I'm just going to throw money at that problem and see what happens - I like it I like it there was one that said does he miss canada and then another was did y'all miss snowboarding this year do either of you have any snowboarding goals - my snowboarding goal is to have our baby snowboard - yeah that's a pretty good one I that's the I think that's the coolest experience that I hope our kid likes people are always like oh what if your daughter doesn't like lifting, I'm like what if she doesn't like [ __ ] snow that would be terrible - yeah yeah that's my only snowboard goal that I can think of - obviously you might have to wait a few years you don't have any personal goals - I'm a i'm a slow rider, I'm a soul boarder I don't have goals what would my goals possibly be maybe maybe to go on other mountains that would be cool - I guess baby focused goals count - yeah but I'm gonna be a coach - yeah - it's very serious I missed snowboarding this is my first season not snowboarding since I was like- since I started - yeah I would love to go to I think Jacksonville would be like a bucket list trip for me and I'd love to do more backcountry stuff -the backcountry is what scares me a little bit but if you get the certifications and classes and take it really seriously I guess but um I'm not in full support of that -Meg will be walking in the village and gets scared of tree wells so thats too high risk for you - yeah that's why when you ask my goals like stay alive bro, I don't know I don't know my answer to this question what's one thing you were taught as a child that you will not be passing on to your child I have an idea so in my family sports were like everything and not to say that I won't encourage my kids to be competitive sports wise but I will encourage them to be competitive in other things not just sports that could have been a product of my like environment as far as like school and what was kind of like socially valued was sports but I always thought that like athletics was so much more- held so much more value than I know that it actually does which is funny to say because I started my career being an athlete on this channel but you know what I mean like there's other ways to be competitive and it's not just that - what was the question again - what's one thing you were taught as a child that you will not pass on to your child - [ __ ] perfect uh interrupting -oh yes full circle - yes that's it we'll try to break that habit what are you most looking forward to as parents I am excited to have my own family I feel like knowing and learning more about my family's history and kind of like the drama of like that follows everyone I feel like I do have an opportunity to kind of break some of the things that followed the generations that came before me not you know like a morbid way but I feel like I don't know without giving away too much or like throwing anyone under the bus and you just learn like these family secrets and I feel like I have an opportunity to kind of like stop that pattern of happening in in my family - hopefully helping little baby's as they grow, find their passions and interests um because I don't think it really matters whether you're super into arts or music or athletics or academic whatever it is but hopefully finding something that kind of brings you joy and giving a broad exposure to opportunities um probably broader than we either either of us had and letting them kind of find the things that make them take and flourish and happiness so - oh that's such a better answer than mine do you guys see yourselves settling down long term in texas long term yes we will raise our children here that's because we are close to family and my my side of the family and baby has three girl cousins that are all here now in texas - within like four years of age - yes so they are um two and four two of them are two one of them is four so yes I want her to grow up next to her cousins - yeah I can't see us leaving for over 10 plus years do you want to tell them the plan for whenever she goes to college well assuming she goes somewhere great we just keep saying new york I don't know why, obviously she's gonna go to columbia or um I mean if she goes to harvard that's awesome or yale great I'll take it but we will then be relocating to new york - we're gonna take a sabbatical to go be near - yeah young baby who's now you know 18 or whatever, she might have an opinion of this if she gets accepted to colombia and moves to new york - we'll give her distance but we just want to go somewhere cool - yeah we'll be in the lower east side obviously that is something that we've discussed because we do like living near big cities this isn't the ideal location for us and our personalities but I think for what our family deserves this is perfect for us baby's gonna be like a little cowgirl look at her little boots they're so cute oh yeah we haven't showed anything any baby stuff they're so cute how adorable they velcro in the back so they just slip right in so yeah I think we're pretty okay with um texas is a mood for now - adapting yes - to any kind of we could live anywhere - we could well anywhere with ubereats Ryan specifically to Ryan where does a man start when looking for an engagement ring I have that one and then there's another question that kind of ties in which was when did we talk about marriage before getting engaged or was it a surprise we talked about getting married for a while um I mean we were together for like four or five years before we got engaged - yeah we're also not super traditional in like orders and sequences and stuff so like we had been talking about rings for a while I think Meg gave me an idea of like styles and cuts um what you know she usually wears yellow gold jewelry so we're like okay we'll go yellow gold she was saying um an oval or a pear ring with like a halo and a pave and all these things and sending you know screenshots and styles and stuff like that which was cool um but we ended up having a jeweler a local jeweler when we lived in la that we knew of um and had been recommended with a good reputation um so we ended up going together to try on rings and as soon as we did she scrapped like every thing that she thought she wanted um for like a clean simple solitaire um round cut and I think it was just a part of like hey trying something on because I'm sure you would have been happy with anything anything of a particular carat size or above but like she would have been happy with anything in the end and the gesture and the meaning behind it but finding something together was cool so we kind of picked out the stone together and then I worked with the jeweler on setting it and the type of ring um and then I think we had it for months before you actually received it um but it worked out well and then we were in hawaii with that cool instagram picture yeah so my suggestion for ring shopping would be follow bulkinsnorlax on instagram he is a jeweler in LA and if you're in LA definitely go see him you can go visit him and work with him in person or you can work with him online do not buy a diamond ring from a retailer do not buy any diamond from a big retailer Kay Jewelers or online retailers I think it's super easy to get scammed and I would just find someone that you trust and you can trust him because he basically posts daily instagram stories where he will look at pictures, photos of rings and diamonds and he will let you know is this a diamond or is this glass and he'll kind of critique the cut if it is a diamond and he'll kind of show you how to look for a fake ass diamond which I think is super common for people to get sapphires or lab-grown diamonds um which is fine if you want those kind of stones but I think it's really easy to get scammed a diamond is really expensive - tiffany's not going to scam you they're just going to overcharge you on on for the same sort of diamond on paper so that's fine too if you if you want it to come in a really pretty blue box that's fair too you just pay extra for it okay I mean they're nice - yeah they're nice I'm working with bulkinsnorlax his name is dennis on an heirloom right hand ring for baby and I've decided to for this particular gemstone to choose a lab grown gemstone it's cheaper obviously but also since it's an heirloom for this particular gemstone this will last longer - this is like a five minute answer to say try on stones and rings even if you don't do it together you know hopefully she's comfortable trying them on herself and then can give you some thoughts and then hopefully work with a well-known highly regarded jeweler who has you know good credentials - oh have either of you always wanted to be parents - um for me I think it was probably always like in the cards I never like wrote it off or just assumed hey I should have kids by now but um I was always open to the idea - okay so did you always like dream about - I didn't wake up in the morning and write down baby names but I also did like I didn't have a scrapbook about a wedding either like I was just like yeah it's probably gonna happen eventually - but you were pretty relaxed about it all right - yeah - I never wanted kids ever and then I met you and I was like we cannot waste this man's genes these genetics must be passed on - fair enough - he's really smart and I feel like it's a disservice to the rest of the world not to like make other people who might get some of that brain power I'm doing this for the good of humanity really - it's a social net benefit - yeah - good what does Ryan do for work and what does Ryan do for the business what do you do - I mean what don't you do I do a lot of stuff that is behind the camera so I work for all the companies with Meg I've been full time since 2016. so coming up on five years - wow you should get a raise - I should what do I do on our coaching business I do everything kind of behind the scenes whereas Meg kind of works more on the marketing side so Meg does all the front-facing photo shoot obviously all the training videos and stuff like that I handle all of the back end stuff so that's like working with our developers on the app um working with our web developers on our current site and sales pages and all the design stuff I work on obviously programming and everything that after someone clicks purchase that will then happen probably because of me now that we have like other offers beyond you know our kind of core stronger by the day like our prenatal training and postpartum training and kind of educational videos Meg's kind of taken a lot more of that onto her plate because she just has more specialized knowledge there but I kind of handle most of our other offerings - If you've you ever bought one of our nutrition courses or our prenatal courses obviously I'm the one writing a lot of the content and putting it together - creating the tasks and building - yes and I'm the ideas person and obviously I'm a person in front of the camera I'm also the person who has the specific knowledge and certification so like I got all the prenatal certifications I'm more of the coach and Ryan takes what the coach says and puts it into a helps put it into a package that can deliver it in a way that's affordable for people and accessible and just better - kind of more like project management stuff so that's on sort of the coaching and training side and then on like the buff chick side uh I probably do more stuff also behind the scenes but it's like Meg will come up with an idea for a product or maybe an ingredient she read some research about or something similar from there I'll take that the first step is usually we work with a researcher who's a you know MSC and a registered dietitian she will kind of take that look at what the current body of literature says come up with either a formula proposal or if we have some kind of idea that we've already done she'll tweak and modify for us I'll take that we'll review it together then I'll work with our manufacturing facility on sourcing and procurement what can we actually do what's costing look like and Meg's obviously kind of inside all of these parts as well but then we'll usually take that come up with formula move to R&D and sampling from that we'll hopefully find a flavor profile that we like lock that in then we go into like design which is like copywriting which usually Meg does more of but then we'll work on label design then you have to go through multiple levels of compliance so we do manufacturing like QC compliance we do compliance with like a third-party phd officer who helps with all of the legal stuff so I'm kind of working between all the different parties to make sure it's safe and and effective and and legally valid to placing orders doing budgeting um working with our accounting uh teams and legal teams and then seeing the product go from nothing to something and then - I'm smiling because I'm the one online and front-facing so I could say I own all these businesses and Ryan is doing a [ __ ] ton of the work obviously so there's a lot involved with buff chick and strong strong supply those are physical products and companies the online stuff and like me creating a cool nutrition course is pretty straightforward um whereas - still a lot of work - yeah but there's so much more and this is a lot of things on the supplement side are very new to us and new to you so Ryan does a [ __ ] ton - supplements are just weird because you can there's nothing stopping you from selling anything or putting anything you want on a label like you can just sell everything it can bite you in the ass um on the back it's kind of like taxes where it's like you can file anything but if it won't stand up to an audit you could be kind of screwed so we do as much preventative stuff as possible before we go with the documentation not even by the book because there is no book but um very very conservative in every step - well there's just like not necessarily safety things but more like risk of recall or fda action which would cost literally hundreds of thousands of dollars or no probably more that are avoidable with the right actions beforehand not everybody thinks about that right I mean it's also why our labels claims are not very sexy um know our website like even just the language we use is very very yeah underwhelming - we also don't want to lie to people so this question goes into another one that I had because when you say that I mean we probably could continue talking about all the things that you do and I do for work but what is our plan because there's going to be a third person in the family who has a lot to say about how much time we're spending on work so do you want to talk about our paternity leave plan and how we're going to navigate - we've been on parental leave um I think we're at a stage where the team that we have working with us on the different businesses is really epic like they're really good at everything they know their jobs inside and out and they're dependable nothing that we do is that time consuming but everything is kind of time sensitive just because sometimes we need to give the green light or place the order or do this or that to make sure that the rest of the team can do their jobs so nothing it's not like we need to sit down at our desk for 12 to 16 hours a day anymore to get things done it's just we need to give people the possibility to do their jobs so - it's more just being - sorry sorry to interrupt you - what okay I know uh it's more just being available to make sure the team's kind of steering the ship still and doing their their job but other than that I don't think we I think we're pretty much planning on taking most of the summer off other than little check-ins and making sure things are still floating yeah and we did spend a few years where we were stuck at our desk for like 12 hours a day maybe more sometimes for Ryan probably more we did navigate our family planning around our business in a way I know I realized it's totally possible to do it all but we are fortunate in that our businesses are have a lot of support to where it's not just a one-man show or one one couple show so our plan is to take like about six weeks off of uh mostly off to where we're focused on baby and I think we will I'm still like toying around with this idea I think we will get some support as far as like a nanny after those initial six weeks I kind of want to figure things out on my own a little bit and sort of know what it's like to be a mom before bringing someone in and then I can have some confidence and say like this is how we do [ __ ] so that's sort of my parental plan and we'll probably bring someone in a few days a week for a couple of hours a day I'd imagine I guess the cool thing is that it's not like a say regular desk job where you have to go back to work monday to friday nine to five it's like when you want to start dipping your toes back in you can kind of ease in gradually or start taking on a few tasks or projects or if you want to make a youtube video you can make a youtube video but you don't have to be officially hands off after x number of days exactly so we're super fortunate in that and obviously both of us will be taking some time off of work so we'll have both parents at home at least for those six weeks and we'll be um we also make the same amount of money because our stream of income um are all wrapped up in the businesses so we are fully 50 50. that's not true we are 51 51.49 yeah she makes she makes four percent more money well I'm still more important than you just that's also true there's no financial discrepancy there's no um you know what I mean where some parents need to navigate some of those things trade offs well I'm the main breadwinner so maybe you can be the main caretaker I do have titties that milk will be coming out of so I think that will be something that we'll need to navigate and maybe that just means I should be 55 and you can have the rest so we can just figure that out you didn't think that was funny too no I feel like it missed the punchline I was expecting a little bit more hit oh sorry but yeah I think we're very fortunate in that way to where some families need to navigate certain conversations and like have to have tougher conversations or like what employers offer what kind of benefits yeah it's just tough for some yeah for sure so that's our parental leave plan uh it's not completely figured out but yeah I mean I think it's it's the same sort of thing that we're even if we're taking like six plus weeks of that we're calling off it doesn't mean that we're not going to talk to our developers for six weeks straight and just hope that they come back with something or that we're not going to be creating products still on the supplement side it's it's that we will be pretty hands off but expecting you know output from the team and stuff so yeah some involvement but not much so it's like I'm not gonna not answer my email for six weeks but it depends who's emailing yeah usually I do I ignore all of them you're not on the slack channel I don't wanna talk to you do you think we answered enough questions you got like 45 minutes worth outro? yeah do you want to do that um yeah I'll do the intro the outro we say like and subscribe um you know what we say well I don't want to miss anything I need a checklist like and subscribe it goes like this thank you guys so much for watching hope you guys enjoyed this video if you did please leave us a comment and a like um if you smash the like if you're new here uh this is not a typical video for us thank you guys so much for watching hopefully you guys enjoyed it if you did yeah like and subscribe