Latino Men Try Therapy For The First Time

Latino Men Try Therapy For The First Time

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My name's Eli my name is curly I am got the end a little bit we are men, doing therapy for the first time I. Don't. Know anything about therapy, I still, don't understand, the concept, of it I'm here to learn more about it I never. Thought, I needed therapy I think, as a, man and also as a Latin man it's not something talked about it's seen as weakness but I've never done it because, in, my. Family we, were always told, that, therapy. And. You. Know anything that had to do with it was very much like a white American. Thing that they knows really do we do not really, talk about mental health any thought, of needing, help kind. Of shows just a crack and who you are as a man they, always wanted us to figure, it out for ourselves because, they were like we did it why. Can't you be honest with true I'm walking in here with a clear mind but at the same time I want to learn more about it is this truly, something that benefits people I'm hoping that this experience will, not, only help other men to feel more comfortable with the idea of it cuz I know it does help but. Also make me feel more comfortable and being, able to tackle, some of those issues today we're gonna meet a therapist for the first time I'm excited to meet this therapist, mama Eva I think this is a new step for me and I'm really looking forward to it hi my name is Adriana. De Henry I'm a licensed, Marriage and Family Therapist. And founder, of Latin, ex-therapist, it was. Founded. So that, people. Can have a, source, for, mental. Health we, took, it upon ourselves to, start a directory, where, people can find a lot NextEra pissed also, today a therapist. From our network will, be providing, therapy services. Hi guys. Likewise. Some rates of essencial, licensed, Marriage and Family Therapist. And I'm here today to do. A one-on-one session, with all three of you I've been a therapist, since 2009, and I'm. Very experienced, working with a lot, of next men what's, the difference between like lionex, many Latin ex men tend to have a more, difficult time to open up emotionally because, there's a lot of stigma behind that so, I'm pretty.

Comfortable Helping, a, lot of next men through, the process, of getting to that more comfortable place in therapy, I'm nervous I gotta say the fact that you have met a lot experience working. With Latin men specifically, I don't know I'm feel like I'm seeing like a medium or something like I don't know it feels. Like we're gonna talk to a psychic. What. I know is how to guide you to get more in touch with what it is that you're comfortable putting. Out there for anybody to know what is the process like when it comes to a therapy, sessions we start wherever you feel comfortable if you don't feel comfortable talking, about anything in particular about, yourselves. We, can start with answering. Questions about therapy, when somebody's, never experienced, therapy that's where I start with them and just kind of putting them at ease letting, them know that those are very common, concerns. That most men come into therapy with I always seen therapy as an American, thing but yeah thing, too I didn't I didn't grow up in my household like I've asked my mom mommy let's, go at that baby come look at therapy can I see the therapy out of the. Table young III another. Pole Iike a gente, esta pasando hombre, y. But. Get in hand see that I like Y and so I'm like oh I don't have. Especially. Being a man as well as like I think you just have to play it you have to be strong, it is seen as like a weakness yeah we, were. Told to be. Self-reflective like. Deal. With it what can we expect you. Can expect, for me to answer any questions if, you if you just want to focus on us just. Talking about your concerns, about therapy, or if you have anything in particular that you. Want to and feel comfortable talking. About and then, you might even walk, away thinking I, want, to go to therapy after, this yeah so. I was. -, Leah look wait I have to open up now. I want. To understand you. Know is therapy. You. Know, was. The point of it and what can I get out of it therapy, is, something. That people, find typically. Find helpful because it. Allows you, to get to know yourself on a deeper level I learned a lot from sitting down in that session what's, the point of therapy getting, into the session I was nervous I was scared because I'm like now I gotta be vulnerable I'm not, used to being horrible, and also I grew, up with the idea that being vulnerable is weakness but, then I was like you know what if I'm gonna have a therapist, right I'm gonna take advantage of this I'm gonna use it let's see sometimes, I don't know how to react to certain situations.

Emotionally. Or I'm, just not available. Emotionally. For a thing what does that look like for you for instance like I have bad relationships because, I can't be vulnerable that's one thing I do want to work on because I am single for. That reason hey. Hey we talked about that, wanna be more emotional, I have a hard time being vulnerable I haven't, been in a relationship in, a really long time your, poll opacity, una mujer Adafruit, add a tiempo, and they can so rapido, quali so messing Alice Alice. Concern. Locum encantado. Es, que se. Siente, que. Una vez esta Caliente er una historia, cuando. Tu eres. Nino. Associate. Prefer a Lhasa, Toshio me, my mom are super for Faria so salvo capitalistic, a Brandi DFC mm-hmm, and my sister grew up in this household they didn't know how to be loving so that's a common sense I'm the older brother, and make sure that I'm like I'm loving, to all my Podesta's. Hey yo, man. Folk ago, and said Macario so kanhaiya's. Porque. Yo se que ya no lo, recibir, una casa no, sane creado como en soy yo soy yo quiero hacer. La persona que se kirino's a su vida, Yo. No tengo, same IDO ser Corino super Menma the problem, is when. I date somebody and, I, like somebody I, don't, express, that, to them I'm dope en el miedo que. Keisuke. Dentro de una de, onde 8 que es lo que viene, a tu mente cuando, su, hey Samia doe C soy kirino's o. Que. Que. Se dicen Conte, la, primera novia mia yo estaba bien enamorado, no se lo demás trauma, porno so Starla you know as I loved you and, she was like what you don't mean it hey como. La. Quiero entonces, operati. Significant. No I say good Italian Express are el amor introduces, of whale in el mensaje que tu internally sustained si si, cuando, nosotros estamos. En. Una relación in tema venimos, Kinesis ideas podemos expect, at Eva's a veces. Que no son released --is dentro, de una relación, siempre. Viveur cierto. Nivel de amor tal vez para ta la more Vassar mess. In, Cerritos mementos y para la otra persona menos, Yaris, s ba ham BR pero es algo que que, ba evolution, Ando y con el tiempo el, re, lacy own aprende, a, sustainer. Esos, esos cambios, da. Doctora. Como, puede sacar sa, miedo. I. Kept making jokes because I feel uncomfortable my say Jo I'm a comedian she's playing in a way that it takes time and it's a process and when it comes to emotions, you have to like uh soften, it up like, play-doh la manera que se como el miedo por. Una Reed emotional. Es. En, friend Ando lo es como, de una. Bola. De niro see, a jugar, 'la yahoo, garlic a nosotros tenemos la forma que necesitamos, charlie. K. Funciona, para nosotros y, de hammett a de otra cosa yo se que tal vez en las. Calles, no sense Anunnaki yield, servile than a blazer, Debbie, but.

Not Being able to be vulnerable. His actual, weakness, when she explained that to me I was like, muchas. Gracias por la sección de. Man canto mucho the American irascible like having, so many Latino Ellen. I feel, like I'm in a haunted house and the ghosts, are like my, past. Emotions, it feels like you're in a haunted house yeah so what we discussed in this session it was essentially, just like how, the session was gonna go and and, how I perceived. Being. In that space of walking, into a haunted house and being afraid to see ghosts, she's, so amazing, that. She's able to just look straight to your soul and say. Why. Are you feeling that way tell me what what's happening for you right now I'm. Just I'm nervous, cause. It's like I know it's. Haunted and I. Know I'm, gonna, probably see a ghost but I don't know I'm gonna do once I see it okay, so what's. The worst that could happen I don't know I guess in this experience, it's just like I've, been. Such, a hustler, in my life, where. I've, worked, so hard when, I'm you know provide. For my family and I want to take care of my mom and I want to do all these things and like I'm afraid that like oh man, if I go. Back to the base of, Who I am through this experience, and, I've, already built all this life and hustle and like it's like a Jenga piece. Or I feel like I'm building building, building but, I feel if I mess with that bottom it. May, affect, all. The work I've already done I came, in super confident me and Maya had this idea to do this video and I was super open and do it sitting in there I was ready to go and I just immediately felt uncomfortable, and I, immediately felt, afraid because I've never been, able to express, myself in that way before in therapy, we. Can start where, it feels safe. Okay what's something safe that we can start with um, I, think. My dating, life a big, thing for me doing this is like I'm noticing the generational, curses in my family I'm like I am NOT a part of the history of like good, solid. Relationships, and I. Notice that I'm getting older. And I'm like man hopefully, this isn't like an issue that I can't, like connect with someone in a way and that's a pretty good spot to start with because that's probably what's most relevant in your life right now yeah right yeah. I mean la lonely um that's. The thing what happened right now that you set that smile, well I looked over to everybody.

I'm. Wondering. Like what was it that was going on for you as you said that cuz it's almost like you caught yourself me. I guess. I mean I guess I had to follow up with like a joke everyone, said I was I, was like the hardest to crack like I was in and out of it and that. But. I do notice that in spaces where maybe I do feel uncomfortable, or. Things. Are getting serious or whatever else like I'll crack a joke or, I'm light in the space or all I see, someone smile or react. In a positive way my okay that's I feel. Good, based off that it feels more comfortable tell me about that comfort, that, comes up for you I think. I feel valuable, what would it look like if you if you were doing the opposite of you weren't we, starting to the jokes I don't then I don't know I guess I feel like I'm just there I don't know maybe I don't exist I suppose I don't know so you feel scene in bringing value yeah. I know the. Amount of motion that was behind that smile that I had like. It was, so. Interesting. To see like how much I could hide in such a good way cuz I was like I want to explain more I want to get more detail because of what you've witnessed you've, put, on yourself all this pressure about getting, it right, am. I right yeah. One, of the things that I like to tell people is, you, have to be, compassionate. With yourself when, you're trying to to, undo, something that that. You've learned or that you've seen I think it is one thing that totally makes sense is that I do put a lot of pressure on myself yeah. I'm the oldest of. Five. Sisters. Two brothers the, role model yeah, yeah. So, there's no room for messing, up it, has honestly been really positive for me I think it validated, a lot of my strengths, and I, think it, made, me realize, that I'm not as. Lost. Or as kind of destined for failure as I thought I was it's, interesting to find the connection overall, like how everything, is interconnected I don't know maybe the pressure of me having, to you, know deliver, and provide and do all these things every day is kind of affecting the fact of connecting. With someone we have to shift our, perspective and, that this doesn't just have to be like an emergency, room right, right you don't just have to run to therapy, when we're bleeding if we, do the work before we, get to that point mm-hmm, then there's. No need to run to the ER thank, you so, much felt. Like I like, made, it out like I did it something, like that, okay I mean through the race. At. The time when I was in it it felt so good I was like oh my god, I love this so much the minute I walked in the minute I met her she looked like one of my pre Mouse she looked like she could be every move mine so, I was like oh love, her felt so comfortable with her I felt, like right away I just went, just. Like opened, basically. What I wanted to talk about today was I'm. Newly. In relationship, but I had before, then have been a serial dater for very very many like for many, years and, I recognize, that it's, a lot to do with my. Inability. Or my unwillingness, to want. To allow, people to get, in look I don't want them to get too close to get too in and, I think, that that has to do a lot with growing. Up like in an abusive household. Where, I watched the dynamics, of a relationship, or what was supposed to be my example of a good relationship play. Out in an abusive way it's, interesting because it was difficult, to have it on camera and it was difficult to have it in a way that wasn't.

Putting, Anybody on blast and putting anybody in my life on blast because, we've come so far for. Me like that's what I would go I would like to figure out how, do I, allow. People in, in a healthy, way it, gets lonely right I don't, want to admit it, but, I think that's. Why I go in so many different dates so basically, we covered how I. Love. People but I definitely have this wall specifically. With men and that, kind of affects a lot of my relationships with what a men in my life I'm curious when you say. That you, don't. Want to let anybody and what what do you start telling yourself I think, that I have. Built this powerful, human, being and I can feel my power when, if. I have it something in my in my head that I need so I get over and very much like let's go out if I'm sad I'm like but, it's gonna be something that you really like let's go to a movie and I think that if I would have let somebody in if they would have ruined that it's, my fear that they have ruined it because of my own fault. But I have given them the, pad gave them the power I gave them the control let's say you're at the point where somebody is, hurting. You mm-hmm just thinking, about that what comes up for you emotionally, or physically emotionally, and really, I immediately, I'm like oh like. Don't cry we could immediately, trigger it but I immediately, get. Placed. Back into, like. Being that three year old that used to watch all this stuff happened and it was interesting because we kind of traced it when it started and it said it as like being a little kid I didn't, expect to feel uncomfortable like I genuinely wouldn't in being like this is my truth I need to be open and I'm so open about a lot of things you immediately. Flashback, to being a three-year-old, yeah and it, becomes pretty scary yeah, yeah, and so, I want you to sit with that just. For a moment. Okay. What's, I like to sit with it it. Sucks so for me it was like oh yeah like with just another thing to be open about but, it's still a thing that this isn't just my story, this was including, other people yeah and so the best way you know to take care of yourself or that, three year old self now is by protecting yourself, making, sure nobody's gonna come and hurt you again what we do is. We. Get in touch with that inner child and we take, charge as the adult that we are because you're no longer that child right. You have the, ability to take care of yourself to provide for yourself to love, yourself, right. And so I think, what, I'm hearing is, that you, recognize that ability, you're very aware of it but. At the same time it's almost like well because I already have it and I don't need it from anyone else that's, exactly, what that is you sometimes, think what's, wrong with me like why do I not do this why do I not act. This way or why can I not have a relationship like those people over there and you're like oh it's, because of something that happened when you were younger every time you mentioned, me as a three year old they get like. Appear. Is like I'm like that's like really that's, important, that you notice that so. You're fighting the tears back what are you afraid it's, gonna happen if you'd let just let them know oh, I. Don't. Know to, be able to communicate these things and talk about these things and kind of recognize, where that may have started it, was really powerful and those are tools that I don't think I would have understood. Or. Would have had had, I not, started. To dive into therapy a little bit more it sounds like like, the healing, that needs to happen is a, lot around men, for you and it's. Doable kind. Of go in circles exploring. And seeing like what is, it that I need to work on what is what's wrong here. Right and so. Notice. That I didn't say what's wrong with me because. A lot of the times we internalize that as something. That's wrong with ourselves why have we show you so much for listening to me I know that was a lot to take in and like the short time that we shared together yeah how do you guys feel now I feel good I feel like oh I want to do, more like, so much more to explore set, up a space for us to open up to you so I think that's pretty cool I definitely want to explore that a little bit more I think I've felt, safer in this space versus, talking to friends because it's like I always feel like you're talking too much or it's, like you start feeling like you're just oh it's all about me.

Yeah. They're or they're not gonna care I. Appreciate. That it changes the dynamic, definitely, out of all of us who's the who's the most. My. Answer to that is gonna be we're all up, in our own way. Was. There any difference. And just like who we were how we you. Know I could, clearly. Sense. Who probably, is more. Experienced. That opening up emotionally. That's one of the things that therapists, take into account a lot is, that we get a sense for the client we get a sense for where. You're at and we meet you there so, that's kind of what I did with each one of you with you we got deep pretty quickly. We just went for a dive and. Then with you we kind, of took our time and we we, got but we got there yeah right yeah and with you it was like in and out in and out right like we're dancing we're, back. And forth and so it, but we still managed, to get, deep. And we still managed to get you to, experience some of that it's the case where like I say. Like a witty comment why in the mood as much as I can again. I. Was. Still a little afraid we've, been I was seeing down, here joking around but. Part. Of me was like man don't. Cry. In front of the camera yeah. Definitely. Gonna continue yeah, thanks to you I definitely wanna explore a little bit more and, learn to understand, therapy. A lot more yeah thank, you thank you you put a lot of things into perspective and, thank you for listening to us yeah. Would. I do it again would I go in and have. More sessions yes I would love that would I do it on camera again and probably never ever ever, ever again, before. I didn't see the point of it but, now I'm able to see what's the point of getting therapy, really was able to really, hold my hand through that whole experience and I. Really appreciated, that going, in there it lived, up to my expectations, it felt really good felt like a lot of the advices she was giving was very powerful I feel like she definitely understood, me but the fact that she was lying was amazing and made me feel more comfortable I felt like she was able to look at me in a way and was, able to understand, the process understand. The relationship, I had with my father understand, the process of being surrounded, by multiple siblings, in the Latin household, and I feel like everybody should do it especially.

The Alcaman do, it because, hurt people, hurt people. You. You.

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Thank you for this video. More male mental health awareness

So glad as a Latina growing up my mother is so open minded with mental illnesses and is so pro-therapy etc.. My father doesn’t talk about it but he’s aware of it, never judges just has a hard time expressing his feelings. I got really lucky to have a Latino family that is progressive on mental illnesses.

I love how Gadiel switched to Spanish because that's something I do when I need to feel secure.

uffff yes gadiel i can relate 100%

As someone who is in school to be a African American therapist to help her own community I thought this was a great learning experience. Thank you so much for you vulnerability❤️. God bless

I love that Pero like this!!!! As Latinos we are raised to just deal with it and carry on as men and women I think it's so important to just sit down and analyze and refocus. If talking to someone or taking therapy is needed to then do it

I really liked this video. I think many latin men are not comfortable opening up because of the pressure they feel, and I appreciate you making the effort and exploring yourselves, even though it was in front of a camera and it could have felt awkward. Good job, you guys!

Gadiel made me cry

This means a lot, Pero Like.

Eli is so HOT!

Me being a Spanish speaker I was still reading the translation from Gadiel’s therapy time while hearing and listening in Spanish

So important for so many POC you are brave to try! Thank you for making this video helps me communicate to others about my fear of stigma as well. Seriously. Thank you

Why couldn't they get a bigger couch?! lol But seriously, I liked this video and thank you for passing on the message that men need to open up, talk and be vulnerable

Yaaaas!!! Latinx man taking care of themselves!!!

Bruh this was such a necessity. The fact that latinx men are trying to break the stigmatism of machismo is so beautiful. But like gadiels and curlys didn't have to hit my life so much lmao. Shout out to pero like on the real

Mad love for this video....there was a point in my life that i was in therapy but i stayed with my doors locked up because of my grandparents constantly telling me ya paso get over it so hiding every feeling is what i know. It sux but we just do what our elders tell us to do because thats respect but also leaves us to be wayy to strong for our own good. this video is really great thanks pero like for something so real

Eli is gorgeous

girls next! ???

Omg I love this video so much! I wanted to hug each one of them ❤️ so proud of you guys!

I'm Latina and I relate to this so much. Especially a Latin RELIGIOUS family. I haver severe depression and anxiety. I would stay up nights crying and screaming to God because my mother would always say, "God is testing you" or "it's because you don't go to church anymore since you left to college". And she would call me and ask me what I was doing and I'd tell her "getting ready for therapy" and she would get mad and just say, "here you go again, I'm telling you, it's because you're not looking for God!" it finally dawned on her when I went home to visit and I had an anxiety attack in front of her. I remember hyperventilating and crying and trying to talk myself down and she stood there in shock. I had to ask her to grab my bag and I popped one of my xanax and just cried in fear of her getting mad but, for once, she held me and just said, "todo va estar bien." Now, she understands, but it took years and lots of arguing.

In my culture it’s looked at something only white people do also

omg i love this...these types of videos are so nice because i feel like im learning something new about life in general... thank you

I really like the guys on this channel

I'm EMOTIONAL.

Thank. You...as an aa woman I look at you all and see the same in our culture...I love your brave

this video is so so important, thank you for sharing this ❤️

omg sidenote, i listen to the podcast made by these wonderful ladies! it's really helped me on my own mental health journey !

Thank you for doing this!

Love this!! Awesome how they're normalizing mental health maintenance!!!

That was great. Great idea. Thanks for bringing awareness to Latino men. I appreciate you gentlemen.

and this is why white people are allergic to peanuts and they cry over anything como que therapy tu estas loco

Latin X what’s that

I need a therapist smh

Well about two or three years ago I was struggling with depression and I couldn't tell my mom cause you know Hispanic/Latina moms/dads are like your to young to have depression etc, and well there like a tiny moment that lasted about 5 - 8 minutes and I randomly said mom I need/think I need a therapist and she was like Isabel you don't need a therapist when you can talk to me as in some you know instead of talking to a stranger about your problems , I didn't say anything because what my expectations were I know my mom better than anyone in are little family so i kept my mouth shut. But like you said being Hispanic/Latin and having a mental disorder is shown as a sign of weakness which is why you can't really express it sadly

Gadiel is such a likeable person.

damn Eli's Jenga metaphor is spot on!!

So proud of you guys for bringing awareness to mental health this is sooo important . ❤️ Positive vibes to all

This video is so beautiful! I wish I would be able to find a Latin therapist in my area because I feel that most non Latin therapist dont understand the struggles we as Latin people face.

I’m so proud of you guys

I feel like we as Latinos are taught to thug it out. But sometimes, it’s too much and we need to open up to someone no matter how much others say that it’s not okay or that people might think that we’re “crazy”. It’s okay to speak to others about your issues and everyone needs to know that

It's not entirely true about Latino's being brought up that therapy is weakness or a white person thing. Argentina has the highest concentration of psychologists in the world and Buenos Ares is just crammed with them.

Thank you for sharing! Keep up the good work! Therapy definitely needs to be normalized in all cultures.

This is amazing.

This was very important.

So brave to do this on camera. I hope it helps people see what therapy can do.

The Latino try guys !

I love how Eli goes along with his and Maya's idea and then during filming realizes how deep it is Props to all these guys for powering through

Confronting the deeper parts of ourselves can be so scary as latinos, especially for the men who are taught of it as a negative, but it takes the strongest guts to do it. Thank you Pero Like for showing love and understanding to latinos, I hope all these great guys continue their own journeys with therapy and find how it best helps them. Mucho cariño a todos en PL! ❤

Bad hombres

LATIN-X IS NOT A THINGGGG

Why not

ven como la doctora cambia su enfoque con cada paciente??

Eli and Maya would make a cute couple

I appreciate a good video on a Sunday.

“ go to therapy...cuz hurt people, hurt people.” -gadiel

This was a really great video guys! I am a Latina therapist myself and I’m so happy that your platform is being used to educate and destigmatize therapy in the Latinx community. Keep up the good work!

Thank you guys for this! It has given me an opportunity to feel more comfortable with the idea that it’s okay to want to give therapy a try.

Definitely one of my favorite videos! Thank you for opening a door/window for this conversation to happen for our community

If you're explicitly saying that they're men, wtf is the point of saying latinx? The point is to take gender out and if you're gonna say "men" after latinx, why not say Latino? That's dumb af

This video makes me so proud of you guys♡♡♡♡♡♡♡ This is such a good video! I'm working on different mental health conditions and helping to raise awareness about mental health specially in our latin culture where therapy and vulnerability are seen as bad things. Thank you for this Pero Like!!:') ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡

Me: interesting video Them : latinx Me: not worth it

I just received therapy myself because I 100% relate to Gadiel’s session.

I always tell people that it's not about who is hurt the most because it's not a pain competition.

This is so important! ❤️❤️❤️

The word Latinx is so cringy, please don’t let this shit catch on. It makes no sense. I love the video though, they spoke some facts.

I really love and appreciate this video. Thank you guys for showing how vulnerable you are despite people’s opinions. Keep up the good work ♥️

Great job y’all! Proud of your strength!

My cousins in Argentina tell me that going to therapy is Normal down there

He need to be in therapy talking about a hunted house lmbooo

You guys are so brave! Opening up is not easy and less with cameras around. Gracias por el contenido tan interesante y fue maravilloso.

Omg Curly is my brother from another mother....I related so much to his relationship issues, even what he said about them taking away the power/independence etc.......I thought I was the only one hahaha. I was even surprised to hear her say it could be worked on and fixed...I kind of honestly feel like I'm already beyond help with relationships (I avoid them like the plague) and have just accepted it. hmm maybe not

That was one of the best videos Ive ever watched on Youtube. As a latina who has been in therapy for years, I still learned a lot in this video and it was really, really beautiful to see latinx men opening up and being authentic and present. You all may not know this, but by showing up you affect others in your life and you make them want to show up too. Thank you for a moving video.

This is amazing! Thank you guys ❤ I love Curly, where I can follow him?

i can relate to gadiel soooo much! thank you guys for this video!!

Most Latino men have internal issues because of the fact that, since they are little kids they are taught what machismo is and how ‘un hombre’ should act and all its creating is beings who suppress their emotions and don’t show feelings because showing feelings is ‘weakness’. Although I am not a male, I am a Hispanic female and I feel that growing up our parents makes us think that there’s NOTHING we should be sad/depressed about because we ‘have it all’. Mental health issues is real, it’s happening to more and more people. We should seek help but we should also practice vulnerability. It’s does get lonely. We shouldn’t have to do life, alone.

I really appreciate this. While the focus is on latinx men, it's even difficult for many women to express their feelings and seek mental health. This is really important. Also, shoutout to the therapist, she was really good!

Love that you guys have been getting more into mental health topics. So important and I know people will feel more comfortable getting therapy after seeing you guys go through a session. Therapy has changed the trajectory of my life and I can’t imagine where I’d be without it.

I love you all and wish i had family members more like you.

Gadiel part was so heartbreaking for me, I feel you so bad

I love the clarifying questions that led to more questions for the clients. The clients have the answers and through the questions (layers) more answers will come. Stay in the Light and in Grace

Do yall remember that video when eli had to try "birth control". Well je looks like the lady 's brother that organized it

I love therapy!!

Curly’s session really hit me cause I feel the same way except I ofc have different reason but it’s definitely interesting to see someone else’s perspective and them explaining it from their p.o.v.

This was amazing! As a Latina therapist, i really appreciate when people from the latinx community discuss mental health and therapy. Helping debunk what therapy is and looks like will hopefully show our community what they can get out of therapy.

You guys are amazing strong latino men

Powerful!! Much love Guys....

Therapists' services are tools. They have the knowledge they had to acquire in university to get their license and can offer you an outside-view perspective of your problems/worries. It can be helpful to get a second, more professional, more clear headed opinion. Therapists can also listen to you vent about life or whatever you want. It's cathartic to just talk to someone. Why not use the tools offered for your own benefit? It's better to swallow one's pride and accept/reach out to get the help you need to better your life/survive. (Edit: Fixed a word.)

I love pero like! As a latino this makes me connect to my latin side so much more knowing there are more people like me out there going threw what I go threw.

This was really amazing. So glad you guys did something like this and showed other people, men, and more specifically Latino men that therapy is so helpful to your mental health. Much respect

Me watching this video: Man I cried...hard mainly at 0:00-20:51

I love this so, so much. Thank you for being open--trust me, it takes true strength to be vulnerable. Such a powerful video.

I love how she said "We're all f**ked up in our own way"

Fuck yeah. Latinx therapy...I was waiting for the therapist(s) to come out and I was like * I hope it isn't a white person * and I was so relieved to see Adriana, Maritza and hear about this Latinx Therapy group, so amazing! Being vulnerable is a strength, guys. You got this and I'm so glad you got to have this experience!

"Hurt people Hurt people" - @gadiel. That was deep and impactful!! Awesome video.

As a bilingual Latina who goes to therapy.. I find myself speaking in Spanish too when I’m having conversations with the therapist.. I have asked why i tend to want to speak Spanish and my therapist had mention that growing up, Spanish is my inner voice my first language and it’s what comes naturally to me.. i feel as gadiel is experiencing something similar as I do.. is when we need to express emotion we use our first language

Yesss! I'm thankful Pero Like addressed this. Therapy is still stigmatized in POC communities. Even though we need it. Therapy can be wonderful depending your therapist. It can assist you in moving forward in a new way. She was a gentle guide in this session. Happy for you all...

What came to mind: Who gonna cry first?

If your money wasn't on Curly, then you don't know Pero Like.

Eli : My name is Eli Curly : My name is Curly Gariel : MY NAME IS GADIEL DE LORBE

I believe minority communities have a lot in common, like soooooo much. I'm just glad we are having the conversations w/in all these communities

Yes, Asians and African Americans are also very much against seeking therapy.

Thank you all for the love. Maya and I produced with some really brave and awesome people. Check out @Latinxtherapy for resources and information therapy in the Latin space.

Tell your friend from El Savador w/ the glasses to get an ultrasound of his thyroid (no surgery, no radiation pill, no biopsy?)? I hear thyroid conditions usually involve weight loss than weight gain? Illuminati want u dumb dumbs in therapy to then pill u up then u go crazy. Therapy is gaaaaaaaaaay, no offense to gay people

I love @latinxtherapy!! Glad y'all promoted them

This is a huge deal. As so many people comment below there are so many similarities between the Black, Asian, and Latinx communities attitudes toward how to take care of mental health. it's finally changing, but its because of things like this and vulnerabilities you guys show choosing to do this. The Pero Like team should be really proud about the good work all doing.

+Ohmi Dios its a gender neutral term for Latino

You truly are an amazing person eli! You'll find someone, I know you will.

The content we need & love

Do we find them through IG? I’m a little confused as to where I type “@Latinxtherapy” ..... TIA!!

Eli Vazquez why you so cute ?!

Sometimes when we expose our emotions that we aren't use to expressing we feel naked. I truly admire you and the other fellas putting yourselves out there. I've been going to therapy for three years and it has helped me tremendously even when I didn't think I needed to go. Sending positive vibes and love to your team

Brave isn’t a word I would use Kaitlyn Jenner is brave more like relevant maybe even sloppy and I would describe the atmosphere as one of unisonous

Your situation being the oldest is something I struggle with there is no room to mess up and to be yourself when you want everyone to look up to you and the pressure is so thin go don’t want anyone to know because I have made sutch a persona that is a lie I’d like to let my true self to get out and get some help and this video relly hit home thanks for open in up eli and pero like crowds love y’all if you would like to reach out let’s talk insta- @jmendoza100

Thank you Eli and Maya!

What the fuck is Latin x

I know this wasn’t easy to experience on such a public platform and for that I’m so thankful for y’all sharing this.

This is something that is so hard to do, it was hard watching you guys go through this as it reminded me of when I went to therapy my first time. I don't know you but I'm very proud of you!

Thank you for slowly opening up in front of the camera lime this! I know for a fact that you will be inspiring for someone watching this video

Eli Vazquez This was amazing! Thank you for sharing ♥️

The only therapy i want from her is kiss therapy!

It takes a real man to ask for help, proud of these guys.

Its makes me so happy to see strong Latin men showing that you can be vulnerable

Thank you for this video :)

I really want to go to therapy but I have no money or a car to go or pay for

Do this with latina women please

This video showed me that I really need to go to therapy bc I can relate to all of them

Just seek therapy if you need it. Latino or not we have to address our mental health. I see fellow men who pretend to have thick skin but don't. Keep your mind open and seek the help you need.

Fantastic work guys! Thank you for continuing to break through all the taboo within our culture and within men. No one is weak for seeking help. It is strength that allows for vulnerability. I would think when I was younger that going to therapy, seeing a psychiatrist was something only crazy people had to do. I started going to therapy when I became very depressed and my eyes were opened. I didn't stay because I was trapped in an abusive relationship and I only went in circles. After I left that relationship I did some more and included my family since I felt they needed it too. Very helpful. Like the therapist said, don't wait until it's an ER situation, it's better to be preventive.

This is an amazing video, I needed to watch this. I’m at a point where I feel I can’t express my emotions and I’m drowning. I feel like I don’t have anyone to talk to and open up to and this just reminded me how important it is to vent and asking for help is the best thing you can do. Having an anxiety disorder makes it challenging to open up because of the fear of being judged but mental health above all should not go untreated.

CURLY!! Thank you for talking about domestic violence. I don’t hear about it enough, especially in the Latino community. It made me see a perspective

This. Soo much of my own experiences of dating closed-off Latino and native men were reflected here. I love that you three willingly and publicly explored therapy.. it's no small thing to do. The most powerful therapy I ever had was going back to speak with my 5 year old self... completely next level and absolutely worth the vulnerability.

Loved this video!!!!

❤️❤️❤️ i just wanted to give curly a big teddy bear hug.

This was such a great video but can the media PLEASE stop pushing the term Latinx!! How would I even actually say that in real life... if you dont want to use specific gender terminology just say Latin. Latinx is not it. Thats not even proper spanish Like literally whats the point of saying "latinx men"? Might as well just say Latino. Honestly im not with this new wave of "acceptance" because half of the people who say it are fake woke and will tear you down if youre not with the agenda. New terminology doesnt solve our deeper underlying issues. Dont @ me I said what I said much love!

This was an awesome video

I'm glad they did this. Society in general has a stigma about mental health. Men and minorities are less likely to go get therapy. There is no shame in needing help. You are not a weak person, you're human. It's important for you to be healthy physically and mentally ❤

This was AWESOME thank you GUY'S

"We're all f*cked up." Truth.

Curly talking about building someone within him resonated.

curly’s session was MY session

I love this because as people of color we go through so many struggles and it’s good to have someone to talk too

I was sexually abused at 5 my family never took me to get therapy because they said I did not need it it was traumatic and now at 27 and whith a daughter off my own I decided to break the generational curse and do better for her and have decided to go to therapy.

This is so important.

Wow i love them

This is one of the reasons I’ve taken on psychology as a major I want to help all minorities realize that talking to someone is completely ok. This video is amazing! Bravo gentlemen!

My husband has the best Latinx therapist. Thank you all therapists who do this amazing work

i want more videos like this!

I loved this and how vulnerable the guys were it literally warmed my heart ❤️!!!!!!!! So proudddddddd !!!!!

Best video ever.

I cant take seriously anyone who uses the word "latinx" unironically

Gadiel is so precious! Well they all are but I just finished Gadiel's part

This has probably been the best Pero Like video I've seen. Really well done. Thank you for sharing with us!

totally incredible and desperately needed

So my brothers got to go to therapy and if I even mentioned it I would be yelled at btw I'm a Dominican female

This is great! Me encanto! I am a Latina woman y yo voy a terapia, me tomo conocer 3 therapists before I found the right one for me, I grew up with very manipulative parents y terapia es necesario

God bless all of if you for this

This is one of the best videos you guys have done.

I love this

Eli ily

Gracias muchisimo por hacer este video! This helps folks who may be afraid, hesistant, or stigmatized, confused or unsure about talking to a therapist know what it's like. We all have mental health and minds that need to be cared for and therapy is a great way to do it! I love Pero Like!

One thing that they don’t mention is that you have to “bar hop” till you find the one therapist that you feel good with. Like I don’t particularly like this therapist but I LOVE my therapist now. She challenges my thoughts and asks the uncomfortable questions that keeps me thinking about the session all week. She’s amazing. But always try a therapist for a month before you decide to find a different one.

Don't generalized all Latinos, unless those in the USA. In Mexico we go to therapy and is provided by our universal healthcare. AND STOP USING LATINX IT IS WRONG; La Real Academia Espanola already said it, so is either Latino or Latina; as far as I know in English is Latin LATINX doesn't exist.

I wanted to see em cry.

Wow this was refreshing. Thank you for allowing strangers to listen to your stories and see you at your most vulnerable. That took some guts. Also it shed light on how positive and helpful therapy is. Highly educational to latino audiences. Great video.

This was an amazing video to watch.

Jamas olvidare lo buenote que esta el papa de Eli

Gotta say there is nothing sexier and more endearing to a woman than a man who is being 100% AUTHENTIC!!! OPEN, VULNERABLE, because in THAT space where true strength is drawn you surrender your human ideas (limitations) of who you are and let divine source guide and support you. It is the unmatchable power of a child’s innocence, or the beauty of a field of flowers, or the love a mother that always finds a way... where there are no obstacles or barriers...you get to just love and be loved. Anything and everything is possible from THERE! Only scary if you are attached to the idea of who you are! Who you are is too big to be defined! BRAVO to you gorgeous beings who are daring to be REAL! In this sincere direction that you’re all taking you are immensely appealing to this conscious sister!

Latino countries are very taboo about therapy. That’s why I don’t want to marry a latino. I need someone who understands he’s a human and has to deal with his emotions rather than bottle them up and blow up later. Heeeeeelll nawwww

I would love a podcast to listen to on my way to work!

Great segment!!

Best pero episode yet!

You guys should definitely look into transformational life coaching. My focus is geared to a holistic/spiritual side. Where you can not only go to the source of the issue but you can heal that event that marked you. Tanto entreno en inglés como español. Es como el primo hermano de terapia pero es interactivo. Tanto son sesiones individuales oh entrenamientos de grupo donde nada es casualidad y puedes constelar eventos de tu vida para apoyar a ti y a los demás. Y creado al lado holistico. Ofreciendo tanto el lado transformaciónal y el camino holistic con Kyoshin donde descubres cómo amar tu sombra para así poder aceptar la luz que habita dentro de ti. Luego en tolteca te conviertes en el artista de tu vida conectado con el libro de don Miguel Ruiz; Los 4 acuerdos, y el 5to acuerdo. Donde creamos ejercicios en base de esos acuerdos. 1. Ser impecable con tu palabra 2. No te tomes nada personal. 3. No hagas falsas suposiciones 4. Dar el máximo en todo lo qué haces 5. Leer detrás de las palabras/ escucha todo y no creas nada. And then you get to Maya; El Camino del Guerrero. Donde conectas con la civilización Maya y el sincronario Tzolk’in a empiezas a fluir con la sincronía y la energía del universo. That was very brave of you guys. Wish you the best.

Is it just me or gadiel really looks like yk osiris

I'm going to forward this to my Mexican-American ex-boyfriend.

Curly sounds gay

Es demasiado importante que los hombres también puedan canalizar sus emociones sin sentirse juzgados! Excelente video!

As a Latin man, I really appreciate and in awe that all of you have put yourself out there in, These kind of vid is have hlep my wife understand a bit more about Latin men and it really has help me understand that I am not alone and that other Latin men get the struggles we go through in keeping emotions in check...mil gracias a ustedes and keep up el tremendo work que están haciendo.

Gadiel, I'm here for you papi. Lol all yall are sweet little babies

Gadiel and I got the same problem, I don't fucking know how to express my feelings to others, I either show too much or show nothing

We are all fuckup in our own way lol

Is there a version of this in Spanish I have Dominican stepdad I could show this to who I would love to show this to maybe finally got him to understand the concept of f****** therapy

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