I Taught My Gay BFF To Fight In 30 Days
I'm. Gonna learn how to box I have. Never ever been in a fight before at the end of 30 days I'm, gonna fight somebody for the first time right now Cody's like the little baby he won't hurt a fly I think a lot of times as like fan people, we don't really use our bodies, a lot, in aggressive. Ways and I'm not speaking for everybody I've never tapped into that side of being rough with my body and being aggressive with somebody so it's gonna be really interesting for me this all started because gaudiya was staying with me when. We first became friends and one of the first conversations we ever had was, about how I have this social anxiety, about leaving my house sometimes, and I think that it's something that's shared with a lot of people within the queer community in, that, we feel like we have to hide we have to be in the shadows we have to tone down our. Queerness. And I think that that is a reality that a lot of us really. Face, though I hope got a yo like you know I don't feel really comfortable and, he was like you know what like when you're with me like I got your back like you can be as gay as you want to be I feel like everybody, in this world should feel like they could be themselves when, they walk outside, and not feared to be attacked I always thought that that was really cool and I immediately knew like that's my brother like we're gonna be friends forever this is very personal to me because I have a gate system and not so long ago she, was walking outside to, her place and she, was attacked and the first thing this person said is if you're gonna act like a man I'm gonna treat you like one I proceeded. To attack her until, this happened to my sister and having that conversation with curly turns, out that this happens, a lot within the community, people in my life I've always been like don't worry like I got your back at your back but I'm like Windham as an adult and I have my own back this is the purpose of this video not, only, to Train curly, to fight to defend himself to show awareness on what's going on within the LGBTQ community I'm training for, 30 days straight, with Manny. Pacquiao's, strength, trainer, Justin, fortunes I'm the owner of fortune. Boxing gym, Hollywood California how many you've been fighting a 30 years I've never fought anybody in my life I'm like the most gentle I'm like oh my ladybug, like I'm like the most hippie as so, I'm wondering could. I get to the level one thing we, beat the hippie ivy. This. Is some a leash like I'm about to learn how to fight with them back when I was 15 years old and I was in high school I used to be a boxer what are the things that boxing, taught me is to be, confident, within myself I knew that could protect myself I was not afraid anywhere, I went and I want to be able to give that gift to Kurt you want to get to live when it comes down though you have to defend yourself. Right. And. Waiter will, teach you everything I'll teach you some more. That. Dirty super. Anxious about the whole thing because I'm like I don't want to look dumb I want, to win talk about what the month might look like just, follow me. What's. Wrong outlook crying, let, us swing easy, maybe. Even you regular. Stuff but what do you need for me like what what, should I be bringing to the table beside, you should just have you know just a clean clean. Slate no. Man and we'll just teach you from basics, when you're with that boss. I'm gonna pray really hard I'm, gonna work really hard I'm gonna light a lot of candles and I'm gonna have a long conversation with Jesus because I really, need to win this fight after we done with this video he's gonna be a monster I'm not trying to get fuckin the face you see I'm pretty good faces is day 1 it's 6:30 in the morning I'm, gonna go and train new credit right now super. Excited, to solve it you're maladaptive. Boy the first week I have been training every day except, for Wednesdays. And Sundays and, it's, been kind. Of intensive. I've. Never used my body in a physical, way like that where I had to like punch and it's interesting cuz like I kind of liked it I kind of thought it was like really cool to be able to be like yeah I'm pumped you up confident first day clearly is learning how to throw a punch how to hook, justin has him on the mid justin, is like you could tell that this man is an experienced, man he's been doing it for a very long time.
My. Knuckles, were like bleeding like right, off the bat like immediately, and I was like we're doing some damage we're doing some things all right so today was day 1 it, was super amazing it was super dope I learned. A lot I'm. Very, sore and very tired when I walk into the gym I feel, like it's very masculine energy, I'm immediately, comforted, because it's Hamra foolish, Justin's wife she is just like this beautiful, warm energy, back in. 2009. I, was hired to fight Kim Kardashian, and that's celebrity boxing Matt and I flew out here trained, with him and then we, fell in love and, ever since then it's been bliss, we describe our gym is like we're one big family but we're one big large dysfunctional. Family you know once you're in here you're family but it's tough you know you're gonna leave your sweat crying tears it's gonna be full-on, it ranged from being nervous about having to be all men and not, only dealing, with males with dealing with males who are there to fight, so it was definitely, nervous. But what was really cool too is it everybody, there kind of just let's you do your thing like nobody, really is watching, you have that vibe that boxing, love I feel like everybody, goes over there to train people I serious over there working out with Justin is dope. He, is like this huge, man with. Like this heavy accent, well I hope. Sam. And. Holder there and you can feel the. Strength, when he barely like taps you like this man is wrong. But, he also wanted me to learn how to breathe so he would make me run like the running part from you with heart is good like we would come on Saturdays, early in the morning and it was hard it was hard to keep up but it look. Good. It's. Hard I was like if he makes me run one. More lap yo, C Mon Modi he also had me on the punching bag the punching bag was dope I never thought that I could punch a punching. Bag. Softer, softer softer, we. Did practice unlike the feed, bad thing but like I don't care how long our practice on that thing for like I could not pick up the rhythm. Sometimes. Sometimes, you know Tamara was like I got a fight coming up pretty soon I think curly should go and see this and I'm like that's that's a great idea let's take curly over so like that he could see how this rose and he could see how a real fight is. So, the fight was. Interesting. And intent and there, I was being like I don't want to do that I wanted him to get a feel what a fight night is it's pretty cool. It. Was really cool to see people live within their normative glory like when they did good they did good I also want him to see like it, doesn't matter how a person, looks some people could look scary and they could look built but that doesn't matter fighting, is all about skill it was so dope to see hammer, fight it was nice to see that somebody from like my gym family, basically, going in and, getting down. The. Second week I could see his punches get a little bit more sharper, he, knows how to throw the punches, his hooks are really, good his overhand, right is the strongest, are even, better than good.
I Hate. Spying. My. First part was up against this amazing. Fighter sweet, spirit, sweet soul and then Franky cardis like really nice I'm like oh my god I'm a bum die yo you're training for a fight and I want him to be more aggressive. Have. You ever seen the Incredibles not to compare, him to Elastigirl but like Elastigirl moves like this and like you're, like that. Was Frankie like I could not land, a punch like he was too fast, and I, was. Like cracking, up and every time I was fight I would just be cracking up because I'm like this is ridiculous like what am i I. Did. Land one punch and, I was immediately like like, oh my god I'm so sorry. When, you spar they put like this huge helmet on you I can't breathe in this helmet I can't see in this helmet I can't see it I have my glasses off you have to remember to like I'm super, blind without my glasses and if you're claustrophobic this. Thing is not for you like you will not like this hey man I go and spar with each other but it's like I also, don't have it in me to really. Go, hard, on Kurt, it got especially, hard when I had to fight. My brother gotta go so we go in bell, rings were. In there guy do is a trained. Fighter he, was in the military he knows how to handle himself, I. Never. Seen curly in that light you know I got a lot of love for curly curly always had my back so I got this brotherly, love for. Curly that is like I never see myself throwing, a punch at him he lands, a punch that. Sends, my head back like, a little egg and when I come back up he's. Laughing and, if you know cardio's lab you know his laugh is loud. As. Even. Though I laugh but, in my head I was also thinking it's curly I can't believe I just did that to Carly, I don't know this much I'm, laughing at, me right now so then I like, this. So I get mad and I start swinging we start going at it. This. Part was over it, was interesting, when I took off my helmet, I hear Tamara say Guardians, bleeding curly you mean patio bleed. It. Was a mixture of it. Being like oh shit like I didn't even like. A punch like that and then it being like I didn't. Need I want to learn that on someone who I like love is my family, there's, no Freddie no no. I. Never got a bloody nose in my life I don't want to get emotional again but, I think that punch really, opened, up a lot of different doors in, my mind that, I didn't. Know. We're still there every time I hit you yeah I felt like pure shit inside. Yeah, I don't like it like it's it's weird it. Is a weird feeling like I'm doing it cuz I have to defend myself. When. The car and then curly gets emotional, and you starts crying in a way I also understood. Because it's like you gotta hit somebody you care, about having, to hurt somebody that I'm really connected to hurt, it's a weird place that to like tap into as a human being like you're.
Just Like, well, you know all day long you're like oh go. To work I gotta feed my dog gonna do this gonna pay my bills and then like those two hours we're like I gotta get aggressive and, you gotta reach into a place and you hear like oh. I'm. Not gonna lose, like I'm not gonna do this delicious complete. Had. Been very open about growing up like in an abusive household, things got better for me but it was like a thing that I had forgotten had, affected, me so deeply and, I didn't realize that it was still. A huge part of me which I never thought I didn't think I was gonna feel like that I thought um but yeah I thought we done this before tonight nah that was also like somebody I care about like and I was 30. Training. Continued, I kept going I was still working out camera, hits me up she was like I found, somebody he's perfect. I basically wanted to fight somebody who, was a had. Never trained before and B, had never been in a fight before because I wanted it to be a little bit more even he's like almost the same height as curly he's never fought before and we, could start training, him but he's also a marathon, runner look at we like I'm out here I just thought being a potato a year ago I was worried that was like nah none there's no weight I don't think this is a good idea all the talk was about him, being like a marathon, runner you know he's. A marathon, runner you. Know he's really buff you, know he's really beautiful and I'm like Nick what. I don't what. About me I'm like curly, you needed me Alex, I'm thinking, like you're this is a time that you need to be aggressive son. I found. You on Instagram, but now I see my real life building, boo hi how you know incredi sees them he's like dying you want to get tea I'm super, nervous I'm super like I'm excited, but. I. Expected, more like a combative. Stuff but you guys. Ready. I was like what, are you doing like you need to be like harder.
With Him because when I met Alex all I wanted to do was be like ah what's, up like how are you. We. Hit it off right away, Gallo is like don't, be his friend like what are you doing sobbing, curly, for a second and just be a fighter. And. There are not like whenever I saw videos of him training or him fighting or I would, watch him fight while I was jogging I kind, of just felt like oh I could take this guy like I could take him so Kurt he had to travel he. Went down to Mexico for a couple of days so he missed some days of training and he also had to go to Florida. When I got back justin was training Pacquiao, so he had to leave so I trained with Marc Justin's BFF and then the amazing Kenneth, hunt I know he's like pretty busy so we've been trying a little more consistent. But, you know we've been doing the best up kid. When. He came back we're like you know what we got to kick this into high gear because, the fight is around the corner. I saw. A, shift, in curly I first he was to like nice and and. Painting, around and smiling, and joking around a lot to apologize for anything. No, there we go, ever since the rappers. Apologizing. Bro I saw a change, in him to be a little bit more aggressive. Everybody. Was like you have this fight coming up you were sparring, for several, days leading up to this, fight I went up against three girls, I was super. Intimidated. And then on the flip there's the whole thing of like the way that men are taught or at least the way that we should be taught not to hit women or get violent with women it's, ingrained, in us I'm like listen credibly don't feel bad because, either way when I used to fight I used, to spar with women too so I was like I don't want to hit a girl but also like I'm scared, of you I went. Up against Tamra she is trained she knows had a fight she teaches other people had a fight mostly Tamara Tamara is a tough one, she's aggressive she's, tough I can see that the first punch landed and it was a hard punch, I saw, her. Waddle, and I was like whoa he's, he stumbles, up but he feels bad again, it's a mixture like I didn't know that I could do that but then also like, no. It's. Definitely like the two sides of me battling, it out and I also went up against other girls they've been training for a long time it was interesting to see women put themselves in harm's way in order to teach me how, to be stronger, after, that I went, outside and I. Saw kriti crying again how do you feel though, honestly. Yeah I have like a lot of mixed emotions again. Hey, boy I just liked it it's, kind of like um like. Triggering, it's like a lot of different, like. I know these girls are like trying, to help me be a better person and I'm like I'm gonna have to hurt you to do it but I started, crying when I do it when I fought with you yeah don't. Feel bad for nobody because, when you're out there in the street nobody's gonna feel bad for you and, they're, not gonna think twice and hurting you or even taking a life out there here and we see that you, see that well then just I came back to take over. It's, hard to be like oh we're gonna train you but you're gonna fight within 30 days because there's a lot of things that you need to learn we're getting down to the. End actually. I've learned a lot but I most like still, not. Used to like, fighting, I'll go in and I do it and I'm like that. Was so I was so cool like I could use my body like that was so cool and then, I wake up the next morning to come back and I'm like. So. Before the fight I could see Carly, being different. At work leading, up to the fight I had crazy. Anxiety. Like I couldn't work I couldn't think, straight crazy, crazy anxiety.
Gatos It's excitement, it's, and this is also a. Crucial, pivotal. Moment for you and yourself. What. Are you doing. Getting. Out of energy the. Anxiety. You're. Running around the office and, he was just like trying to just. Like get that energy out like he didn't know what to do or how to feel and stuff like that I just wanted to make him feel better. Was. There 10. The, night before the fight it's. Really like the day that we've all been, waiting for everybody, who's trained me I got. Contacts and. So I can see you're, not supposed to wear them by the way when you fight I'm kind of sad like I thought I'm gonna go in and I have to fight somebody I just tense mom we already have a winner, hopefully, it's me hope. It's me I actually. Asked, to take the day off the, day of the fight because. I just wanted to reflect and I literally just sat here in my house I laid on my couch and I just reflected. A lot and just thought a lot and prayed a lot is now, surely an hour and a half away to our fight I just gave myself a little pep talk in, the mirror and I think that I never, in a million years imagined. That I would. Be here I gotta kick his ass. And. I don't feel happy thinking that I'm just trying to amp myself, up. Before. The fight I wanted a surprise credit, I'm gonna do something special for him you know and I want him to walk into that ring I want him to be proud. I. Got. Those boxing. Trunks I took into an embroidery. Then. I had them stitch the Salvadorian, flag in the front and I put the curly show in the back which was cool man like I just want him to be happy and proud like that for me like regardless of anything, like anything anything anything whether, I win or whether I lose like we did it I trained so hard I did give it my all I, gave it my absolute all, week and geared up he had a wait in the locker room I was making. Sure like everything is ready set go there's, the point where the audience, is cheering I, think Scotty I asked, who's here to see curly and the crowd is loud and I cringe. Cringe. So, hard because I want to make sure that Alex knows that he has support too and then they, ask who's here to see Ali. People. Screamed and I was like gasps I'm so happy that people are here for him like I'm so happy that people here this behave I'll walk into the room he goes like how's Alex doing I'm like don't, worry about Alex. Right now like you're gonna fight this guy right now I was sitting down trying to talk to him that you need to have this fighter instinct, you need to have this animal instinct, right now right now when you get in the ring yeah, are not cool bro yeah but I just want to make sure he's okay I was. There warming up in the locker room. They. Introduced the fighter. In, the blue corner, from. They. Do this thing when people are about to fight they make you poop gloves with the opponent, and I look him dead in the eye and my head I'm like okay. Like I'm so excited to see him like let's do this, Alex's, face was like that's, a huge game on and I'm like oh shit, Carly was not game on it started. Once. That bell rang that guy was on it like he was on a mission. He, was a bull like 30 seconds, in I think, he landed a couple of punches I saw him Curly's head fly, back and I remember thinking like. Just. Like in flow more like that shit hurt and I'm in the corner I'm also thinking about McMahon there's a lot of people from BuzzFeed and I used to sing something like this I started.
To One point black out a little bit he, knocked my contact, out so there I was blind. What, I could see was the. Crowd going, from like what. -. Like oh. And. I'm thinking like you should have more faith in me. Your, first fight you're, not thinking about technique. Even the other guy both one was just going like this none of them Bob them weed none of them blocked the referee like pulls me he's like are you okay breathe, breathe, and I'm like I am breathing the. Second round came in and that's, when curly started landing more his right hook I saw, curly natural like animalistic, start coming up. But. I don't, give up I've never quit anything I, never give up so I keep going he is ruthless, he. Is a, good, fighter you, know Alex I don't know where it got him got him a couple of times and after that curly couldn't see anymore I'm blacking out again I'm like I can't see anything I didn't, have time to catch my breath let, alone open my eyes let him I'll be able to see and I'm falling against the ropes again but I also still did not want to give up so I kept coming back up and the referee kept being like are you good are you ok and, I'm like I got this I got this so we keep going at one point I tried doing the trick where I hug him so that he thought he, pushed me off I think and he kept going and I was like this is intense, and so the ref grabs, me he's like you're done and I was like ok. I'm done like. I I can't do this and it was a moment, of defeats, and it was a moment of feeling like all of that for, this moment to lose. It's. A mixture, of emotions you know but one thing that I could say is god, damn clearly got heart he's getting punched by a grown-ass, man but. He never hit the mat this was Carly's first fight and to, be honest with you I'm proud of him I was in the state of shock my body was in shock I was in shock so I go I'm like I just need a moment to collect myself I just need to figure out what happened and as I'm sitting down I'm, like nauseated.
I'm Extremely. Dizzy. I can't, focus and, I'm like I'm about to throw up. And. I. Literally, start to throw up all over myself this is not where we thought this video was gonna go but we're like are you okay what can I do did it and, I could not stop throwing up. They. Thought I had a concussion and they were like you need to go to the doctor you have to go to the ER and make sure you don't have a concussion and so we went. I don't. Think we need to go I think I'm fine. I think, I was just panicking already. Else uncanny, thought, was. That's. Busy, I got, my ass handed to me my body hurts but, I don't feel like he. Didn't deserve his victory and I don't feel like I, didn't. Try, it was good I knew, that something had changed I, knew, that after that fight I was a different person it, also changed me spiritually, it's okay if you are a. Fighter it's okay if you're not a fighter it's okay if you. Have other ways of surviving, I use comedy, I used. Allies. To, survive as a queer person for, so long you could walk around with his head high. Because he did something that most, men, today do. Not have the balls to do sometimes, you win and sometimes you don't and it doesn't make you less than it doesn't make me weak they both had a great fight they both trained, hard yeah one man was better than the other he took an out but guess what that's life we take else how will I be going back party, man I do. Feel a lot more confident, I do feel like if I need to defend myself I can do this, I recognize. That I'm capable, of doing a lot of things that I never knew, that, I, would be capable of we did this fight for a good cause Alex. Did also did it for a good cause I'm proud of both of them he walked into that ring he, walked in there with his head up high, I hate fall. And you're supposed to get scared you're supposed to be afraid to do things you're, supposed to fail and you're supposed to get up and do it again or do better be the best version of yourself.