How Kevaughn quit his 80hr/week job & went full time in his business (by changing himself)
Quasi here. And in today's video, I want to share with you how you can eliminate procrastination once and for all, but not only that, how to get into a state of flow and bring this flow state into every single area of your life that you want to bring in so that you no longer have to force yourself so that you no longer have to struggle against something. And so that you no longer have to fight against yourself to do something that you have to do in your business, whether it be marketing, whether it be coaching, whether it be, you know, prospecting, but actually enjoy it, grow from it and have it be effortless. This took me a very, very long time to figure out. So I really want you to pay close attention to this video because there's going to be some nuance points and what are really share with you or for deep principles that I recently just figured out to help you get this flow state entertained this flow state in any single area of your life.
So please stick around until the very end of this, and I'm really, really excited for you. So before I go ahead and get started with this video into quickly announced that I made a brand new bootcamp for you. If you go down to the pin comments below, you'll be able to access that, just click on it. And you'll also get exclusive access to my email list where I can share stuff that I can't really share on the channel. Just an interesting side note. I actually tried to record this video once this will be my second time recording it. Uh, the first time I didn't even turn the camera on. So that was quite unfortunate, but I'm excited to do this video again for you guys to some really crucial points here. Maybe we'll release the first one as a podcast or something,
but without further delay, let's go right ahead and get started today. I want to talk about eliminating procrastination, how to do it. And I really don't want to share some gimmicky reprogramming your subconscious mind, or jump around and shout. So you get some motivation or any of that stuff,
because I tried that and all of that short-term gimmicky stuff is short-lived. But what I do want to teach you is our principles that you can begin to implement in any single area of your life. Okay? You can mold these principles to yourself and how it might work for you. Right?
So before I get started, I want to get started with a story. And this is a personal story of mine and how I came to this realization. But essentially when I was younger around 14, 15, I mean my whole life, when I was younger, I would see that I would be super engaged while playing video games. But whenever I had to do homework or any schoolwork or any other chores I would procrastinate and my whole life, I started to believe that I was just a procrastinator. I was this lazy person because my parents would tell me I'm lazy. My environment would tell me I'm lazy and I'd never want to complete stuff until the last minute. So, uh,
I started to believe that I was lazy and that I was just worthy of playing video games, but what I didn't realize and what my environment realize. And they never told me this is that it's not that I'm a procrastinator because clearly I'm not procrastinating on video games. Okay. I had never procrastinated on video games. Whenever I set up some mission in the game, I would just complete it whenever I would start a video game, I'd play for 12 hours straight. No problem, no lapse in concentration at all.
But when it came to homework, no concentration there whatsoever. So until the time when I turned around 14, 15, maybe around 16 years of age, and I saw that I was spending 12 hours a day playing video games from morning, like 10:00 AM to 10:00 PM. Um, with my friends online, I started to get this FOMO. I was like, oh, I'm missing out on life. You know, my friends are going out and partying and socializing. Maybe these social skills will help me in the future and I can learn to network or I can meet some girls and be cool and all that stuff. But you know,
when I, when I started to get that foam, I started to wonder, well, why is it so hard for me to go out there and do all of the, all of these things, but it's so easy for me to play video games. Why? And that's when I started to realize it's because I just, I didn't enjoy all of that stuff. And I did enjoy video games. And one day I just had enough and I was like, you know what, I'm going to start going to the gym. And if I started going to the gym,
I gained some muscle. Maybe it'll be easier for me to be more confident and present myself. So I started going to the gym, right? And I started to lift weights and I saw that I was getting better at it. I was gaining some muscle and I was just, I was doing the bench press. I was doing the squats. I had a good routine going on. And I would look at videos of it online on how people are doing it, proper form and everything. And I started to do it myself and I was, you know,
getting pretty good at it. I was, my weights were going up. I was bulking up. I didn't want to be that scrawny kid anymore. And that's when I realized that, wait a second, I'm super engaged with this. I'm actually as engaged in lifting weights as I was with video games.
So this turned out to be my second ever love, you know, weightlifting and go into the gym was my second ever romance, my first ever being video games. But I never thought that I could replicate that kind of love that I had for video games onto something else. And then it came for personal development and then it even came for my academia and like trying to get a good grade in school and graduate with a great degree. And then it even came into my business, right? So I started to see that unconsciously, I could pick out those patterns and things that got me super engaged with weightlifting, with video games, into all other aspects of my life. So I started to ask myself, what are these principles? What's really helping me do this and replicate this right up until, you know, a couple of weeks ago, I never understood what it was.
I thought I was just doing it. And I thought, you know, I had a surface level picture, but recently I've come across this book called reality is broken. And this is by Jane McGonigal. And she explains how more and more people are using video games to escape their real lives. And the title of the book is, you know, it says it all, it says reality is broken. And she claims that reality is broken. Video games are a good escape because of these four reasons, these four principles, which I'm about to share with you and these four principles are what really helped me get into flow state in my business.
And you understand that if you can get into this flow state and doing work becomes effortless for you and you actually get joy from it, you're going to want to do more of it. And if you do more of it, you're going to get more results, as opposed to your competitor who keeps forcing themselves and, you know, taking massive action and fighting against themselves, they're going to eventually lose because they're going to burn out their willpower reserves. Whereas you're not going to even need willpower because you're going to be pulled by it. So that's what I want to be possible for you.
That's what I want to be possible for every single human being, because that's how it should be. Right. You should be doing something that you love every single day. So without further delay, let's get right to these four principles principle. Number one, what helped me, you know why quasi is so engaged in video games with weightlifting, but he wasn't for business. He wasn't for academia right at firstly. So principle number one is satisfying work.
What does this mean? Of course everyone wants to do satisfying work, but what, how do you mean quasi? Well, what I mean by satisfying work, any work that's satisfying will have a clear activity. Plus activity plus impact. Okay. Okay. So essentially what this means is if you look at video games, right, you have this clear mission you've got to complete.
And when you complete that mission, there is some impact your world. The video game world changes in some way, you make an impact on that world by doing that activity. So if you look at games like world of Warcraft, I'm sure many of you've played that before GTA. You've played that before. When you do a mission, the world changes a little bit.
So in world of Warcraft, when you do a mission, the whole server updates and the other players can experience the mission that you've completed. And you know, they feel the effects of your actions, right? So this is satisfying work. You have some clear activity, you do X, Y, and Z, and you make some impact on some environment or something, right? That's number one. That's why we like to do things that are satisfying, that have clear impact and we get into flow state. So by the way, these are the four principles to fulfillment. Okay. Number two,
hope of success. Does that mean it's pretty. Self-explanatory but how I like to do this is with a word. Called Kaizen.
And the Japanese automotive manufacturers used to use this because they used to, they wanted to get a little bit better incremental improvements every single day. And that's how they became one of the giants, right? So if I look at video games, if you look at video games, you will find that many RPGs have these characters that you level up. And the more you play, the more experience points you gain, the more money you get. And with that money, you can buy stuff for the character. You can buy swords, armors, et cetera.
The same thing happened with me in the gym, right? When I started to go to the gym and I started to lift weights, I saw that I could lift more weights and I was getting better. My bench press was going up. My squats were going up. I was gaining muscle. I look in front of the mirror, I'm getting a little bit bigger.
I'm seeing clear results from my work. I'm getting a little bit better every single day. And this is what got me hooked. Right? Getting better every single day.
So that's principle number two. Okay. Hope of success in any activity, any area of your life. If you can implement this, you're going to be super engaged with it. Number three,
social connection. Now here's an interesting thing. Human beings are social creatures and social creatures, crave, social interaction and connections. Now, what I started to see was when I was playing these single player games, I would just complete the storyline and I'll be fulfilled. I'm like, okay, great. That's done. But when I started to play multiplayer games, I could play all day.
I was playing 12 hours a day with my friends during the summer holidays. Um, and. You know, because we were all coming together in a group and we were collaborating on how to complete this mission, how to complete this heist. And it was super, super engaging. And we were becoming better friends as a result of it. We had more commonality.
So social connection essentially means establishing some bonds. But please, I want you to also reflect on this for a second. Any relationship that is successful is successful because the two people have a common goal, right? They wrote together towards that goal.
It's only when two people grow apart because they have two different goals. Does divorce, the separation do two people just essentially grow pot in the first place because they have two different goals with their lives, right? So naturally they're going to grow apart. You grow towards your goals. So anytime you have, you know, friends at a bar, you know your friends at a bar, you have golfing friends, you have these friends because you golf together. You have these friends because you go to the bar together, you have these friends because you go to your country club together or whatever, right. You have these friends that you gain with, you have these friends that you go to class with.
So you have these different sets of friends that you do different things with, right? And it's because you have these common goals with these people and that's how you build social connections. So another thing I started to notice was when I was going to the gym, I actually started to collaborate with other people in my class who went to the gym. And then we started to go to the gym together. And I was like, holy, this is so great. Now I'm working out with some friends and I was even more motivated to go to the gym every single day. Right? So this is how, you know, social connection really works in helping you become more fulfilled and get into a state of flow. And last but not least, anything that you do must contribute to a higher purpose in order for you to feel fulfilled. So higher purpose. And what this essentially means.
Is. Contributing to something greater than contributing, greater. Plus. Some feeling of, or, and wonderment. Right? Interestingly. When I started to go to the gym, um, I realized that I could teach other people who were wanting to go to the gym.
Like there was some of my friends who wanted to start up right, just where I was before. And I was giving them advice like, Hey, you can do this. You can do that. Let's just begin with this. You can, I was kind of training them for free. And that led to another one thing led to another.
I was actually mentoring them on other areas of their lives, like relationships, like their careers and finances and how to work on their mindset. And that's really how I got into all of this stuff in the first place. It's because I felt when I was going to the gym, that I was actually contributing to higher purpose by teaching other people. And that's why I love teaching so much. I love sharing knowledge so much. I'm always looking for better ways to do it in better ways to convey ideas, right? So this is why I got super engaged with the gym. If you look at video games, so games like halo, they make you almost feel like you're part of a greater mission, right? So in halo, there's these worlds that are so vast and there's these, the music that they use, they have Grigorian and Sufi mystical chance, right.
It just makes you feel like, holy, like what, what am I a part of you feel this sense of wonderment and, or right. And the whole purpose, like the whole tagline of halo is you fight against your PR you're on a mission to protect mankind from aliens, right? The whole premise of the game is you're fighting aliens so that mankind can survive. So that is a pretty high purpose. If you ask me, so to conclude, these are the four principles, and now you might be asking, these are great and all, but how can I implement them in my business? We're going to get right to that. But before I do, I want to give you a little more concrete example, a couple more examples of how these can play a part in other areas.
So let's look at these four principles in action example, number one games, we saw this, you know, the satisfying work is you do some mission and the world changes and you have some impact through that mission that is incredibly satisfying in real life. However, you know, it's sometimes very unclear what you've got to do maybe in your business. It's kind of unclear. It's like, oh, what do I do? I don't know what to do.
I'm confused. And then you doubt yourself and you second guess yourself, because you don't know the clear impact of your actions, right? So that's example, number one, games, example, number two, hope of success, your character and equipments. They upgrade like in call of duty, you level up, you rank up, you get some prestige or something. I'm not really a big call of duty fan, but again, in real life, you don't know. There's some hope of success. You don't know what's going to happen in your business.
There's a lot of doubts surrounding it. And that's why we escape our reality with video games, right? With things that are easier. That's number two, number three, social connection, playing with friends in video games.
You get to play with friends. That's fun. You do something together. You know, you're not in this alone in business. When you're a solopreneur, this is why 90% of businesses fail or 99%, whatever the number is.
You don't have a friend to do it with you really you're alone. Yeah, no, you're alone doing this by yourself. You have some solo preneurs trying to start up a business.
You had a wild idea about, so that's number three, number four, higher purpose. Some games have like halo have epic storylines. And there's some sense of mission.
Like you've got to fight the aliens in order to save earth, right? That's a pretty big mission in life when you're working your job or you're doing some business, you were just thinking about, okay, maybe I'm going to make this money, or I'm not, you're not really seeing the higher purpose. So it's hard to get motivated. Like I can think of one example, like, I don't know an e-commerce business. How would you look at what's the greater impact I'm making with this? So you've gotta be able to manipulate your psychology in order to do that.
And I'm going to explore this with you in a second. But another example, I'm going to show you is golf, right? So satisfying work in golf is you have a correct swing and the ball reaches your target wherever you wanted to hit it. That's pretty satisfying. Cure asked me hope of success. You practice,
you go to the driving range, you try different things. You try to do different improvements in your swing and you improve number three, social connection. You play with your friends. You go to the golf course and you collaborate. It's also competitive spirit. It's fun and higher purpose. When you go somewhere where there's an epic course, you know, there's some records that's being set like, oh, this is the champion of this course. You've got to beat, you know,
a 72 in order to become a champion of this course. Then you're like, well, there are epic courses to conquer. So in this way, you know, sports like golf, like soccer and all of these things, they become super duper engaging. Okay.
So now let's look at a more concrete example because you're probably a business owner and you're wondering quasi, how do I. Do this for myself? Right. And how I did this with my business. So I'm going to keep this. And erase this. So, so. Let's say you are an online business owner and you've been struggling with procrastination.
You've had a lot of projects you've been putting off and you're. Like, what do I do? You know. Let's say, let's look at the example of marketing or prospecting. You have to go out and you have to make these ads. You have to do some prospecting. You have to reach out to prospective customers.
You have to send 20 or 30 messages a day. What could be the satisfying work here? Right? Well. The satisfying work here is you reach out to a prospect and then they respond to you and you get them on a call or something, and then you close them. So what you have to do, what are the inputs here? You have to look at inputs and you have to observe the outputs, but the outputs aren't in your control. So you look at the inputs and the inputs here are.
You make ads or you reach. Out to X, Y, Z people. And in this way, you can get engaged a great way in which you can get engaged is if you start to track how many people you've reached out to, and you see how you're improving, which directly relaxed, relates to the second part of this hope of success, having some sort of tracking sheet to sort of gamify it, you know, turn it into a video game. You have a tracking sheet. You're like, okay, well today my target is to reach out to 20 people.
And you see if for 30 days you can reach out to 20 people every single day. And you just reserve your judgment. Okay? Because reality is a little bit different. You know, you won't get immediate feedback, but you know, the, the money you're making today is probably the rewards that you are reaping from the work you did two years ago. Right? So that's how I would do it in my business.
If I wanted to get fully engaged in something, I would find a way to keep school. Okay. So this relates to number two, hope of success. How am I improving? How to improve measure? I think back a very long time ago, this guy, Lord Kelvin, who invented the temperature scale, the measurement in Kelvins. He said,
in order to improve with anything you've got to measure. So how can you measure, how can you have some sort of metric? Maybe you have some sort of metric for how many hours of deep work that you did today. Oh, how many hours of deep work did I put in today? How many hours did I spend prospecting today? How many hours did I spend making this ad today? Right? So you track your hours and you measure yourself. That's. What I used to do.
So that's number two, social connection. This is a pretty easy one. How can you feel socially connected for me? I was super fulfilled when I was doing the sales course, because I was connecting to my prospective clients. I was in the zone because, you know, I'm this extroverted person and I have this need to relate to other people.
So my strength gets activated when I do prospecting work and connect with people. But when I switched. To doing more. Introverted, deep kind of work, I got a little bit frustrated because I wasn't talking to people. I was just locking myself, but behind the screen and just doing work, like just doing deep work all day. And I didn't like that. So it was like,
how can I implement this social aspect of it? And I started to have a daily team meeting and I started to meet with my team every day for lunch. And that's what helped me. So you could have something like an accountability partner that you meet with every day, right? So. Meet with like-minded people. Now, do you have to do this every day? No, you can do this as much as you want, or as little as you want, that's completely up to you. So you meet with like-minded individuals that are in your space. You know,
maybe if you have an e-commerce business, you find an accountability partner in some Facebook group and you both collaborate and you, you know, become accountable to each other. Don't underestimate the power of this. It's it's very, very, very powerful. Maybe you have a mentor that you meet with once a month. I have a couple of mentors that are a couple of coaches that I meet with a couple. Of times a month, right? So that's number three, social connection, higher purpose.
How can you feel like your work is contributing to some higher purpose? And you've got to look at this higher purpose as your mission in life. You've got to get clear on your mission in your life. And this is why I do the reality Marshall program, because we teach you how to craft this mission in your life and how to make everything feel as though it's contributing to that mission. If you can start to show yourself that you will be engaged, you will be fully fulfilled and doing something every single day.
So maybe you write out some mission statement for you. Like, what do you want to achieve 10 years from now? What great impact do you want to make? And this little work that you're doing today is contributing to that. And if your mind can see that you're going to feel you're going to tick off this box, right? You're going to feel this massive sense of purpose and whatever it is you're doing, you know, your e-commerce business can contribute to a great purpose.
You're serving people by doing this. For me, it was quite easy because I was working on mindset and teaching people. I always had this great mission.
Maybe you write out some mission statement that your company has. What is that? Right? So this is long-term goals, long. Term. Goals that contribute to this mission. So set those look at five, 10 years from now and how you can make an impact on the world. How the work you're doing today is making an impact.
Maybe even write down five ways in which the work you do today is making an impact on five, 10 years from now what you're going to achieve, right? You can help them vote. So with that, I conclude this video. Thank you so much for watching. I know this was slightly long, but I hope you got value from this. Leave me a comment. Let me know what you thought of this. Let's do a quick recap of what we talked about today.
So today we talked about how to eliminate procrastination, how to stop feeling like you're battling against some invisible force every single day and how to stop fighting against yourself. And I began with a story of me playing video games, and I have a wife thought I was a procrastinator. And I carried around that identity of a procrastinator for very long time. But turns out that wasn't true at all. What was true was that I wasn't finding ways to make what I'm doing satisfying to make what I'm doing fulfilling. And it's because these boxes weren't ticked off and these four principles are number one, finding some sort of satisfying work.
And what that means is it's some clear activity that gives you a clear result. You do X and you can. I get why if the mind can see that it will be involved, it'll be fulfilled. Number two, having some hope of success, Kaizen continuous improvement measures during yourself, measuring the results, improving on it. Every single day, the three having social connection meeting with like-minded people, collaborating, building bonds, and number four, feeling some sense of higher purpose that this is greater than you. This is why people want to work for companies like apple and Google because they look at the mission and they're like, oh, I want to be a part of that.
That's a great mission. So that this is even a great way to motivate your employees, right? And we looked at different examples of these. And specifically, we talked about video games. We talked about me going to the gym and why it was so fulfilling and golf, but, well, this is one key, but we also looked at an example of business and how this relates to business. Again, I apologize for how wonky this is, but I hope this is legible.
Uh, we talked about satisfying work and how you can begin to implement this right now, how you look at the inputs that you've got to put in and what potential outputs you could get from it. If I do X amount of prospecting, I know by my math, that if I send 20 messages, five people would inevitably respond out of those five people. I'll get three of them on a call out of those three people.
Maybe I'll close one and I will make this much money, right? So I would say reserve your judgment for 30 days for a certain period of because it doesn't immediately happen. You know, it's not every 20 people that you send through. That's going to raise five of them are going to respond to, right? So inputs learn what sort of things puts you've got to put in for your ads. Like maybe you have a goal to make two ads every single week and test out different angles. Maybe you have this input of, okay,
I got to reach out to this man, any people, 20 people a day and combine it with how to improve, you know, your hope of success measures, measure yourself, look at others who are crushing it, who are doing the same thing, become part of communities. And you're seeing other people do it. If they can do it, you can do it too. Right? This gives you some hope of success. And social connection is to meet with like-minded people meet with someone every single day. Who's in this space that you are in,
whether this be your mentor, whether this be your team, whether this be an accountability partner, all of those are equally important. And finally feeling some sense of mission. You know, feeling some sense of higher purpose. What you're doing right now,
how is it contributing to something larger than yourself? You know, why does your company exist? What you do, why does it even exist apart from helping you buy a Lamborghini? Because you're going to eventually get bored of buying stuff with all of the money that you make. Eventually you're going to want to make an impact that's that's larger than you because every single life strives to be larger than itself. Right? So with that, I conclude this video. Thank you so much for watching. I sincerely hope this was helpful. Let me know what you thought of this. If you new to the channel, make sure you like comment, subscribe, hit that little bell desk. So you're notified of any new video that I put out. And also if you'd like to work closer with me and my team, and you'd like to apply for a reality marshy program, the link for that is in the description below, who we typically work with are people who are entrepreneurs and business owners who want to scale their businesses.
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